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today i woke up feeling very depressed and thinking about death...i think living in such a negative enviroment where no one in my family is nice to one another and no one ever does anything helpful or kind really drags me down...when i try and do something helpful or nice im met with insults and meaness...no good deed goes unpunished as they say. my therapist told me to fight the feeling of doing something nice for my family because they do not appreaciate it and it only results in making me feel worse, i try but im not built that way, everyone here is only worried about themselves and i cant take it. i want to be able to be kind and spread those good feelings of positiveness. but i cant and i will just have to settle for treating myself kind and being positive on my own...does anyone else have this problem???
You sound like a beautiful person.
Don't let your family take that from you.
Did you ever hear the expression "Kill Them With Kindness"?
Just because they don't appreciate kind gestures doesn't mean that they aren't being influenced by your actions.
Who knows, maybe someday they will want to be like you......
I came from a very similar family. Selfish and hateful........
I had to eliminate them from my life.....They were hurting me.
You may have to decide whether or not you can keep these people in your life. Just because they are "Family" does NOT give them the right to hurt you in any way .
Good Luck :-)
You can try to understand why they are the way they are, so that you can forgive them, but toxic people are just that. Toxic.
You come first.
Hugs.
I would do either what WallyBear said and "Kill Them With Kindness" or either show your kindness to someone who would appreciate it. However, since your family makes you feel worse, perhaps it would not be a good thing to put yourself through their unnecessary rudeness? Maybe they will change their behavior towards you after awhile but maybe they will not. Maybe you should do kind things for people who will appreciate it instead? Doing that may make you feel better instead of your family making you feel worse through insults.
I hope you receive the appreciation you deserve soon.
Be clear with your word, speak from the heart, express how you are feeling, but don't expect anything back.
And yes, show your love to those that will honestly appreciate you for you. Mostly, love yourself.
Have you considered volunteering? It would let you help others, which is obviously a big part of your heart, and even if you didn't get any immediate feedback, you would know that you were doing a very needed and appreciated thing. Whatever interests you, there's a volunteer opportunity for it. Animal shelters, nursing homes, local food banks, Habitat for Humanity, bringing people meals who can't cook for themselves...it's really endless.
Peace to you