I've always heard "life is what you make it."

I argue that we are Also, sometimes, what life Makes Us. I'd say it's a mixture. You get a crummy hand dealt, now how do you play it? A little of both I think.

I was also thinking of *a deck of cards*... as usual we are on the same wave length Beastro......

ruv your butterfly

Why thank you! It comes from our friend Buddhacat4!!! He gave it to another member here who as it turns out was here writing "research papers" on how people behave (or in our case MisBehave) on social internet sites, and makes $30 a pop for one of em. Her profile is FlyHigh if anyone is interested. Anyway I've made it my mission to expose that troll. She did a number on me (lots of PM's and "support" ........). So (not to distract you from newbies - love them), just saying keep your eyes open.

YES, we ARE ............ in the Flow, baby!!!!!

I get dealt a shit hand every f'in time too (it feels like, but I'm a whiner so ...). Sometimes it just feels like you Can't "win" with what you were given. There are better people than me, like Wally for instance, who you can give NO CARDS TO and somehow they they play and have fun and don't Care about what they've been dealt. Amazing. So I think in some cases, it doesn't matter, and that saying (for them, not me) is true - "Life is what you make it" , instead of what I say "You are what life makes you (and to the best of your ability what you can do with it)". I can tell you this truth though, "You Are what you Eat!"
























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No, I don't think we choose our own destination. Perhaps our destination chooses us. I know I don't choose to have major depression, bipolar, extreme anxiety, PtSD and all the physical problems I have. I think it is a chemical problem.

Well said, ZAZAS! Exactly!

i don't believe in fate or a path already laid out for us, so yup, i feel we make our own destiny, and it changes due to our whims.

Predestination is akin to giving up before it's all begun. We make our own pathways, find our own route. Depression is a part of the route. Not all glitz and glamor on the bottom rung :P

We don't choose to be ill, but I think we can choose how to deal with it : )

I think it chooses us. It's what we come across. My opinion only

...not like fate I don't mean, like it's random and we learn to use it. sometimes it's a b**** figuring it out.

i disagree. i did not choose depression to ruin my life, to stimy my efforts.

I think it's possible, but perhaps only if you're spectauculalrly driven or perhaps even selfish.