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Distant Love From a Present Parent

Brave
Brave
I cannot begin to tell you the pain of having a Father, yet
not really feeling loved or accepted by him. Sometimes I
think well we are starting to get close, and then he starts
pulling away again. What hurts me the most, is feeling I mean
nothing to him. I hate knowing, that I never felt loved
by him. Even after my father passes on in life, I know the
pain will live on. Please, Give Me Input on this matter!


BRAVE
deleted_user
deleted_user
You're feeling rejected by your own father, but remember, it's him with the issues, not you. I know this pain, as I'm going through it also. My father doesn't bother with me, his first born. He is responsible for his own actions, and decisions, and he has to live with it. Yes, it hurts!
deleted_user
deleted_user
They say that sometimes people don't love us the way we want or expect them to. But rather they love us the only way they know how.

Maybe he is loving you in his own way. Try not to expect too much and accept him for who and what he is.

You cannot change a person. Try and love him the way he is and let him do the same.

peace....
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think you should try to talk to him. If you are not comfortable doing this face to face...then by phone or in letter form. Alot of people pour their thoughts into letters and have had some positive results. I think you just need to hear you are loved and that you matter. Dont forget fathers are still men. they dont express themselves the way we do and many of them do not address matters of the heart. You address it and he will respond.