Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.
I went through a breakup about a month ago, my SATs were yesterday, and my only close friend recently returned from volunteer work in Africa where she was basically cut off from social media. What do these things have in common? They’re all reasons why I was stressed the fuck out! I’ve been really struggling with healthy and effective coping mechanisms. Don’t get me wrong; I’ve been through the therapy ringer. I’ve discussed and discussed how to use coloring books and bubble baths to feel like a capable human being who’s worthy of a pleasant existence. But oh man do those unhealthy coping mechanisms have a sweet siren song.
Like most people who suffer from mental illnesses, I’ve dabbled with eating disorders. I was obese as a kid and I’ve undergone extreme weight loss. Instead of my 10 year old self’s dream of splashing around in bikinis with my gfs or a boy actually having a crush on me, I was left with excess skin and eating issues. Go figure. In fact, it was the skin that made my ex dump me! Oh man, that was a fun attempt at a first time. Anyways, It goes to say that I’ve never had a really healthy relationship with food and my weight is constantly fluctuating. These days I’ve been packing on the pounds with binge eating. Which sucks because I need to get a primary care physician before I can get a new psychiatrist. I can’t get a primary care physician because I can’t step on a scale. I can’t step on a scale because I keep depression stuffing my fucking face. Well not for like the past two days but that’s out of like...a month. I guess the only solution is to woman up and stop binging. I already know that but I’m posting here like I’m helpless. I guess putting it out there just alleviates some of the shame.
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Firstly not most people with Mental Illness have or had an Eating Disorder, 8% of people in the U.S. deal with eating disorders while 19% of people in the U.S. have a Mental Illness.
Now, as you said in the last paragraph of your post, you know exactly what you need to do, and you really sound like a strong person. What you can do to get to the point of getting Treatment is take the emotion out of it and just treat is like a process. Just break it down. Forget the scale.
Make an appointment with a PCP and get that step done. When they're doing the vitals and the scale comes up, take a deep breath, and as you say, Womanup and do it. When your talking to the Dr. be proactive, say, "look I know I need to lose weight, I have an eating disorder and I need a referral for a Psychiatrist." Don't get on the defensive, when they start the 'lose weight" talk. Be on the Offense.
Get back in with a Psychiatrist and get back to Treatment. You took your SAT's, sounds like you have a plan to go to college and have a career. We don't just take SAT's for the hell of it right?
Posting here isn't a sign of helplessness, it's not being weak, you don't sound like a weak person to me. You sound like someone who knows exactly what they need to do. You also sound a little scared, because you know its not easy, its a lot of work to get Emotional and Mental issues under control, but it sounds like you've got it in you to do it.
I hope you can get your plan going and get the help you need so that you can start living the rest of your life.
Take care,
kat
You did hit it pretty well, with the only solution is to woman up and stop binging. Interesting how we know deep down, what has to be done.
Now .... look at that very closely. Common knowledge is that an eating disorder requires an orchestrated treatment plan ... between yourself and the medical profession. Don't try it on your own ... victory is not likely. Give yourself the best shot.
Evidently, you have lost weight in the past. Problem was,.. did not take it to the 'last step',.... plastic surgery for excess skin. Think how different your life would be had you completed that step. SOOOOOO ... do it again, but take it all the way. That would be WIN #1. Do this with SINGLE MINDED DETERMINATION. Little to nothing else matters ....at this point.
Once accomplished, move on to the next priority.
You will never succeed until you get priorities in order, follow through to SUCCESS, and obtain EFFECTIVE help from the medical profession.
You have certainly tried ... a bit here, a lot there, but the goals must be better thought out and better pursued. Gotta get REAL serious about changing your life. All this can be fixed .... but you need a lot of professional support ... and a good perspective. Good luck to you. You can have a new life.
Mushu: My powers are beyond your mortal imagination. For instance, my eyes can see straight through your armor.
[Mushu's eyes move towards Mulan's chest; she smacks him]
Mushu: Oooh! All right, that's it! Dishonor! Dishonor on your whole family!
[to Cri-Kee]
Mushu: Make a note of this: dishonor on you, dishonor on your cow, dis...
[Mulan covers his mouth with her hand]
Mulan: Stop. I'm sorry, I'm sorry. I'm just nervous. I've never done this before.
Mushu: Then you're gonna have to trust me. And don't you slap me no more. We clear on that? All right. Okey-dokey, let's get this show on the road! Cri-Kee, get the bags.
[to the horse, Khan]
Mushu: Let's move it, heifer.
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'I’ve discussed and discussed how to use coloring books and bubble baths to feel like a capable human being who’s worthy of a pleasant existence.'
love the humor : )
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