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Hi, I suffer with depression as part of my OCD so I know all about it but I think my boyfriend is now suffering. He was made redundant on the 6th Jan and although he is now on a 6 month fixed term contract, he is struggling with things. He says he doesnt fit in at his new job, he doesnt like it and wants to leave. At his old job he started work at 7.30 and finished at 3.30 so he had most of the afternoon. Now he is working 9-5.30 so is getting home late and doesnt like that. He is also struggling with the new people and misses the people he worked with before. He was at his previous job for 8 years and that was his first full time job.
I was made redundant in March last year from a job that I loved and really struggled through the first 6 months of my new job (which I now love). But I see a therapist, am on citalopram and have suffered for years so I already had a large support base to lean on. The trouble with him is he doesnt want to except help. He keeps saying Im ok, I am always ok but what he keeps saying about his new job and the way he is feeling is exactly how I was when I was made redundant.
He now wants to leave the temp job but he wont get any redundancy money if he leaves before the end of the 6 months (its a temp job within the same company but a different office) and he thinks that temping elsewhere would be better. But I think it will be the same anywhere. How do I help him?
I was made redundant in March last year from a job that I loved and really struggled through the first 6 months of my new job (which I now love). But I see a therapist, am on citalopram and have suffered for years so I already had a large support base to lean on. The trouble with him is he doesnt want to except help. He keeps saying Im ok, I am always ok but what he keeps saying about his new job and the way he is feeling is exactly how I was when I was made redundant.
He now wants to leave the temp job but he wont get any redundancy money if he leaves before the end of the 6 months (its a temp job within the same company but a different office) and he thinks that temping elsewhere would be better. But I think it will be the same anywhere. How do I help him?
Huggz for you; share with him. He will need them.
Isn't change horrid? Sounds like your partner is out of his comfort zone. Early days in a new post are going to be tough for him...New environment,different ways of working and of course the big one...New people!! I hope he can stick it out jennie. The grass isn't always greener on the other side is it? I've had some terrible jobs that sucked the life out of me...But you carry on and somehow get through it.
I think you just need to keep communicating with one another jennie and hopefully you'll both get through this tough period for you both.. Good luck
Peace,love and lights :)