Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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omaerdna 08/02/2014

Not a good combination at all. Live alone and since the depression has visited me big time over the last few years, I've lost interest in pretty much everything and the people I called "friends"/social group/community have either moved on or - more precisely - have managed to maintain a pretty good lifestyle, complete with manicures, pedicures, travel, dinners, theater, etc., etc.

I sure don't fit into that lifestyle..... Someone suggested I call and I wouldn't even know what to begin to talk about. What's in the forefront of my mind right now is how I'm struggling with just getting through one iday at a time. So I sure don't have anything interesting to talk about. Have lost my social skills, esp. the one where I used to be able to BS about anything and everything!

Am working with a coach who keeps reminding me to take "Baby Steps", but OMG it seems like things are moving so slowly, esp. on a night like tonite when I'm stuck with nothing to do. Actually, I have many nights like this and I somehow manage to read a bit in a book and watch TV. Seems like such a waste, because I'd really like to be out in the world and engaged in some activity. It's like an oxymoron. Blessings All!

deleted_user 08/02/2014

I can relate to you. I live alone and suffer from depression and socializing is hard for me as well. Its hard to know what to do when you are not with people. I watch a lot of tv too and it also feels like a time-waster. I try to volunteer once a week and that is not too bad.

omaerdna 08/02/2014

Thanks for replying to me, Isabella. I'm actually thinking about attending a church service tomorrow, but as soon as I begin to think it through, I immediately decide it's not something I want to do. Partly, because I get pretty bored at the service (what can I say?), and then the other part is the schmoozing afterwards which involves OMG!! talking to people. the last time I just bolted like a race horse, came home and felt worse, so I'm weighing my options. My coach keeps reminding me that people are not going to show up on my doorstep, so I've got to be the one to initiate. God, it's scary!! Blessings.

Victorious 08/02/2014

I empathize with you; i will try not to sound like a cliche. The good news is the you have the energy to post this message and this is great.thing.

I cannot tell you what you need/have to do so I will tell you about what I do. If given the opportunity I rather stay home and sleep the whole because when i sleep I don't feel or think consciously but although I feel like doing nothing, I am very stubborn so I force my self to go and do what I have to do, need to do or do something that I just like in the hope I could get back into the game.

I many times feel lonely or some times several times during the day but life goes on and it is not going to wait for me or anyone else so.

Hope you feel better

Hugs.

TroJanThunder 08/02/2014

Manicures,pedicures,dinners out. Travel? Sounds kind of superficial to me. I would say go go for the church and volunteering first

SingYourGutsOut 08/03/2014

I totally understand. I have a busy husband who is never home and I do get lonely too. My social skills have deteriorated. I need to go to church, its been too long, but I think I will only go for the first part and leave before people start socializing. It's a fine line for me. I want to socialize and yet...... I didn't have the internet for 6 weeks and I just about went crazy but now it's back and I am so happy.

akacountrygirl 08/03/2014

I can completely relate to what you are going through. Tell your coach that things are moving way too slow and see what he/she suggests.

Best wishes

akacountrygirl 08/03/2014

Do you have any hobbies? If not try to get one. Art of some sort or even paint by numbers. You can channel a lot of your energy into your hobby and feel good about it.

I am an artist. I make jewelry and do some photography. I find great pleasure in creating things. Just an idea.

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