i have abandonment issues as well. very hard to over come.

It is hard but I'm tired of going in circles and allowing this to distort my thinking and make mistakes. I'm having a hard time dealing with all this healing process, The pain can be excruciating at times but i'm fighting to persevere and overcome this. Thank you for replying to my post :)

You can message me whenever youd like, Ive had abandonment issues my whole life that I'm finally starting to get over!

Thank you very much rcurtis. Will message you soon so you can give me tips.

welcome to the site cleo 81.......i am going through simmiliar things as well..i am glad to hear you are facing your demons......that takes a lot of courage. you should be proud of yourself.....i was abandoned by my mother when i was very young and it still effects me even now.........i hope you keep posting and maybe meet some friends that are trying to deal with the same issues.....take baby steps and you can over come this or at least learn how to better deal with it....

Thank you reddog, I appreciate the encouragement and believe you too will learn how to heal taking one day at the time like you said.

welcome, cleo81. I'm glad you've decided to speak out and work on your issues. that's so positive.

for myself, it's cyclical. going deeper emotionally to work through family issues (generations of neglect) and then periods of distraction (in a positive way). fun and non-destructive distractions because doing emotional healing can get overwhelming.

best wishes to you. there are so many resources..... you just have to find the ones that match your situation or create your own resources.

I do a type of marker journaling. 3 pages of journaling with a dozen sharpie markers in different colors. it's words and doodles/ drawings. whatever is on my mind. I use a large 9"x11" sketchbook for this. I use this method 2x a week (6 pages total)..... but then go some months without using it at all because it can be intense emotionally.

Thank you for sharing wavewater. I have found techniques that work for me, I just needed to find others going through the same for the times I needed to talk to someone who could relate. I'm glad to hear you've found help with journaling.

Welcome to the site, Cleo, I visit here so I don't feel so alone, I am trying to find new pathways for coping. Winter was so hard, I think SAD Seasonal Affective Disorder plays a part; and now bad weather in spring / summer; it's always some disaster going on. Finding a hobby like wavewater said is good. I like astronomy even though I can't see the night sky half the time because of all the darn clouds, I need a new hobby! lol What are you doing to cope?

Thanks seaQ. Wow, astronomy sounds cool! I pray to God and tell Him about how I feel and believe in his power to heal. I also do things that I love such as cake decorating, playing virtual board games w people, I confide in two friends I trust and feel safe to speak to, I read positive quotes or Bible verses that help me build a healthy self image view of myself. I also love fixing things because every time i fix something broken it gives me hope that i too will get fixed emotionally even though i'm broken right now. I listen to music, watch shows that make me laugh. These are some things I do that are getting me where I need to be, slowly but surely. I hope you find your next hobby soon!

díttσ thαt. í wαѕ "rєlínquíѕhєd " αt 6/wєєkѕ σld. dσn't knσw αnчthíng αвσut mч вírth mσm.
í'vє вєєn αѕѕcσѕѕíα

ѕσrrч. í'vє вєєn αѕѕσcíαtєd wíth nσ lєѕѕ thαn 16 nαrcíѕѕíѕtѕ. αll ѕtєmmíng frσm αn σn cσmmєnt αnd αвuѕє.
gєt ѕuppσrt. ínnєr chíld wσrk cαn вє rєαllч tσugh. gєt αn єхpєríєncєd pѕчchσ thєrαpíѕt íf чσu cαn.
wє αrє kínd, ѕєnѕítívє pєσplє, thαt'ѕ whч wє αttrαct cruєl pαrtnєrѕ
tαkє ít ѕlσw, ít ѕσundѕ líkє чσu mαч wαnt tσ í
u tuвє "nαrcíѕѕíѕm "
αnч tímє чσu nєєd tσ tαlk. í'm αrσund.
αndíє

Wow Andie, I'm sorry to hear that! Thank you very much for your supportive words :)

cleo81, thank you for sharing what works for you. a religious faith can be so comforting. I'm glad you have that stability in your life. also cool that you love fixing things!

I am also somewhat in your situation I just came out of a abusive relationship and am in foster care for neglect and I feel you It is wicked hard to overcome but not impossible. Have faith in your self and you will be ok.