I guess the best thing you can do is look at him the same way he will look at you. At this point he knows nothing about your past or history of depression, just like you know nothing about his past. If he knows nothing about you then there is no reason to get anxious. I'm sure you will enjoy it.

I know you are afraid to be yourself, but he will want to love you for YOU and not someone that you are trying to be. I think that you should go into it with no expectations (easier said than done) and if something great comes out of it, it will be THAT much better! He is probably just as nervous as you are, so know that you are both in the same boat. Good luck, and stay positive even if this date doesn't work out!!

I want to wish you all the best on your date. Hope is turns out well for you, have fun.

When I get really anxious or nervous about something I try some breathing excersises. Inhale for 8 counts, exhale for 4...do that about 3 times if you feel yourself getting really nervous. It always calms me down. You'd be suprised how far a deep breath can go. Just remember to stay positive, and talk about your interests and hobbies. Everyone gets nervous when they meet someone for the first time-I'm sure you'll be fine. Good Luck and Have Fun! :)

Just be urself. Good luck i hope all goes really well for u x

I use to hate dinner. But, come to think of it, if you are enjoying food, you don't have to talk so much.

btw, that coffee won't help that anxiety much.

good luck I hope no one breaks your heart

I went for a job interview once - I wanted to get that job SO bad, I was so nervous, and I fucked it up spectacularly. Didn't get it. I wouldn't have given me the job.

6 months later the same job came up again. I knew I wouldn't get it, I'd been judged and rejected as not good enough. I don't know why but I went for the interview again, but because I knew I wouldn't get it the nerves were gone. I sailed thru it with confidence and friendly banter and got the job.

The interviewers told me how painful the first interview had been and asked me WTH was difference this time?

This time I hadn't placed as much dire importance on the outcome. I was gonna go in there and give it my best shot, and if I didn't get it I'd just keep on keepin' on. Their judgement of me wasn't going to affecct my judgement of myself.

Mind you that was about 5 years ago and at the present moment my self esteem is at point zero. But i hope this helps a little. Maybe I should listen to my own crap...

Good luck Heretic, hope it goes OK for you.

It's just s coffee meeting. Don't try to think of anything beyond that.

Whenyou have your first real date then you can get real nervous. jk

heretic..I have seen you post many times here.. I feel like I am getting to know you..

I think it is great that you are going to meet someone.. That takes a lot of courage.. I hope it all works out for you.. Try not to be so nervous.. I bet he will be a little nervous also.. Please let us know how it goes..
good luck

Great advice, especially from DustyKitty