I am sure I can. You suffered a huge tragedy .... and you have set yourself up for more thereafter.

>>he was an alcoholic
Lesson learned.

>>I met a guy on tinder.
online dating is EXTREMELY risky. Lesson learned.

>>I know it was too soon
Enough said.

>> I spoke to a psychic
I figured you probably were drugged and I am NOT a psychic. I hope you don't consult psychics anymore. They tell you the obvious or a lie and take your money.

>> He denied everything and didn’t ever want to talk to me again.
He either did NOT drug you and wants as much distance from you as possible (as I would) OR he DID drug you and wants as much distance from you as possible. Either way ... you need to move on. This relationship went SOUTH.

>>I made threats to him that I was going to hurt myself. I even sent him pictures of a girl hurting herself. I feel really bad what has happened.
You could very easily end up in jail on a stalking charge. Move on.

>>I feel really screwed up in my head and I can’t think straight.
Then work your way out of it, .. talk to a professional, and stop making mistake after mistake.

I am sincerely sorry for the loss of your fiancé. Don't let it make you live so recklessly.

I give you these comments as advice. Seems to me all this ties to the original trauma.

Try a dating service. They check people background. They interview people, check who that person is. They can help you find the one you are looking for. I saw a dating service online. They can find you a date from any cities.

I'm SO sorry Sweetie. I'm sorry about your fiance. I agree, sounds like you were drugged. I also agree that psychics are not where to go for help. I like the advice these guys gave. My suggestion would be find ways to improve your well-being on your own before attempting another relationship. I know , personally, it takes a long time to heal from trauma such as death or abuse. Keep a journal of your thoughts, take online classes, do things that you enjoy. Take care of you. Ill keep you in my thoughts and prayers. God bless.

I haven't had sex with my husband in over three years because we are separated and I would never give myself to another person because I know the spiritual connection that occurs during sex. You want someone to love and to love you however until you love yourself first, the people you meet are going to continue to use and abuse you. Think about it. You are meeting a fraud when you go out on a date with someone for the first time. We all put on a mask. We don't show our true colors. We get dressed up, we are polite, we laugh at all the right times, etc. However a true relationship takes time to develop and one night is not enough time. You don't need a man in your life to be complete or to feel whole. If you also think about it, what you are offering to another man is an incomplete unwhole you. You owe it to yourself and the next person you end up with to be a healthy you. Someone who can manage their emotions. Someone who values themselves and their body. Someone who is even-tempered. If you take the time (and it can take more than four years) to work on becoming your best you, than the right man will come into your life. He will respect you and your body. He will value you. He will want to build a life with you and not a one night stand. Why would you want to be with a man who potentially drugged you and is probably doing this to other women? I wish you could have gone to the police or to a doctor to get tested because this doctor needs to be reported before he does this to another woman. Go the doctors and check yourself for STD's. He is not worth another moment of your time. You did what you did and it is in the past. It could have been so much worst. What if you had become pregnant. What if you have herpes or another STD? What if he is married? Cut him off, delete his number and never give him another minute of your time. I value the support counselors can provide and have gone to one in the past. Find a counselor who will support you and your goals and help you get through this. You can do this but you have to want to. We are hear to help you through your journey too.