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Yup, that can be creepy. When we went to pick up my mom's ashes dad told the person that I would be holding them until he passed and they could have their ashes spread together.

Uh, yea. OK. A bit of advance notice would have been nice dad.

But I did it, and it worked out OK.

Hope you don't get too spooked by it. And by the way, why are they at your place?

I have the ashes of my two pets that I lost back in May 2016 with me. The other night I saw the box that holds my cats ashes and broke out in tears. Here she was a purring, warm, loving animal and now she's just a box. Sadness.

I'm sure you'll be fine. They don't creep me out at all. I wish I could feel something from the box but it just kind of sits there sadly.

I think that at some point it is time to let go of those boxes and urns containing ashes. But that may just be me.

I held onto a little baggie, my portion of my brother's ashes, a good 6 months after he passed. Then I realized this is silly, his spirit is the main thing, and I did receive a few visitations from his spirit in dreams, it was so loving and peaceful, that I finally scattered his ashes around my pool deck where he used to love to lay out, to help the grass grow. I think he appreciated that. My dad had a portion of my brother's ashes and he invited me to witness a "burial at sea", dumping that portion of his ashes into the ocean, per his wishes prior to death. I was terribly sad but agreed. My dad scattered another portion of my brother's ashes at Buckingham Park, CO where we used to have picnics when my brother and I were kids. My brother's ex-wife, who he was still friends with at the time of his death, scattered her portion of his ashes next to Moroso Speedway where he used to race his Chevelle. I'm sure he was looking down from heaven and smiling at that decision. His mortal remains as a reminder, a roadmap to this Earth, means he gets to hang out around the racetrack and watch the races every year for all eternity if he chooses.

To keep my departed brother's spirit alive, I've been doing my part by uploading videos of him when he was alive and well to Youtube, then sharing on Facebook. The videos have been a huge hit. Seeing him moving, in vivid closeups, and hearing the sound of his voice, brings him right back, as though he could walk right in through the door--it is so calming and soothing. Little do we mortals know!

We all grieve in different ways. Holding onto a deceased person's ashes is not "creepy". It just means surviving family members are hurting, missing the person who passed, and attach some value to holding onto the person's ashes as a way to possess a little bit of the person's spirit, keep the spirit close to their hearts.

you might be right, pepperman. not to hijack, but i have plans for some portion of the ashes (memorial jewelry, memorial keepsake for the home, launching into space because that would really make him so happy) and the rest i think i'll probably keep forever. not sure but it feels right and seems right.

It took me some years to get used to my mother-in-laws ashes being in a box in my husband's closet. Now it doesn't bothering me. But it is getting closer to when her ashes will finally leave the closet. My father-in -law just turned ninety in September. Her ashes will be burried with him.

My mom is in my hutch in a box by my moms pictures. And a. Angel. By her