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Coping with guilt?

Xiao-Shu
Xiao-Shu
I'm struggling with a lot of (warranted) guilt fol lowing my cat's death, which gave way to fullblown depression. Fighting suicidal thoughts every day. I'm seeing a therapist, but it doesn't help much. I'm wondering if anybody else has felt this crippling guilt and, if so, how do you cope?
deleted_user
deleted_user
May I ask how you feel responsible for your cat's death?
Xiao-Shu
Xiao-Shu
You can find the whole story in the Pet Bereavement forum, it's a thread titled Do you ever forgive yourself for failing your fur baby or sth like that, but, in a nutshell, he was under treatment for a form of pancreatitis and eating poorly and I don't know what possessed me to start feeding him boiled meat. He seemed to like it at first, but then started eating less & less, and by the time it crossed my stupid brain to try feeding him sth else he had developed severe anemia and his pancreatitis had gotten worse. I took him to 3 blood transfusions, but after the third he started peeing blood and died the foll. night.
deleted_user
deleted_user
So, you did not do it on purpose and you tried to get him help.
Then you do not need to feel guilty. You are not a doctor. You are not God.
You did your best. You are blaming yourself because you think, in that way, that somehow you could have prevented hit loss. "If only I had or hadn't done this or that, then this would not have happened". Lots of people do that.
It is NOT your fault. Please don't blame yoursel on top of your grief over losing your pet
gka
Xiao-Shu
Xiao-Shu
Thank you for taking the time to read my post and for your kind reply. I don't know if I should feel guilty or not, but I can't help feeling this way... no matter what other people tell me, I have this record playing in my head, of every thing I did wrong...