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So my daughter just recently received her license. Today was the first time she got to drive to her father's for their court ordered visit in the car that I helped her buy, not him, me. The court order says 'no overnights'. However her father calls and says that she's spending the night cuz she's been drinking. She is 16 yrs old. This is one of the reasons I fought for no over nights. Her father is not only an alcoholic but he is a nasty violent drunk. If I call the cops, my daughter will hate me. If I say nothing, it's like I approve. I am so mad and dissapointed in my daughter right now I actually can't talk to her cuz I'm afraid of what I might say.
Am I wrong?
Am I wrong?
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And this means I strongly recommend not being the boss of these two. It's like trying to control someone else's diet. All you can do is teach them to cheat and lie. sneak the treats. You will not achieve the aim you think you achieve: of actual obedience.
This is because adults react badly to being expected to obey. Very badly. Especially men: if you try to boss them around they will undermine you. They will go underground, get passive/agressive. You DO NOT want this. You really don't.
16 is no longer in the 'do as mummy says' phase of life. It is in the young adult apprenticeship 'try it out and see what happens, i'm there for when you fall' phase of life. If you try to prolong the obedient preteen phase you will get rebellion, resentment, anger, and rejection.
I speak as a mother: it's really bad to control over the age of about 14. Once they're 14 you have to shift modes from draconian to negotiating. What you cannot convince them of logically you have to let them experientially find out about.
There is no 'alcoholic gene'. There is only the alcoholic anxiety. It's emotional. Dont' squash 'em if you don't want 'em to go sideways - and that includes dad.
If you want your daughter to figure out that dad's an ass when he's drinking guess what you have to do?
NEVER say it. Never say it. And let her hang out. And don't judge him to her, and leave her to figure it out without an expectation from you.
I tell you these methods of control and domination will create the opposite effect to the one you desire. Humans are not puppets. They don't obey.