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blairbearxyz
blairbearxyz

I am new to this site and just thought I would try to express my thoughts and feelings on a site where others understand the pain.  I recently got out of a 4 year abusive relationship and am left feeling very depressed, sometimes suicidal, and numb.  I have always struggled with depression, but it has intensified since I have been in this relationship, and especially recently getting out of it.  I just need to understand how to get better and not feel this way...

Restful
Restful
What you experienced was trauma and it's important to talk to a professional about it if you can. I hope you start feeling better. Hang in there.
blairbearxyz
blairbearxyz
I have been in and out very inconsistently, but I keep making excuses to not go because I just want to avoid the pain realizing the severity of what it was. I know I need to, but I am just scared to make that step.
Jessie_Under_Control
Jessie_Under_Control
I know it's scary to come to terms with it. It's scary to realize just how bad it was but once you take that first step, you will start feeling better. It won't be immediately but over time you will eventually start to feel like yourself again
bridgie101
bridgie101
I have to ask where your parents were in all this. If you were in an abusive relationship for 4 yrs, that means you started with this bloke at 16 at the very least, and he was abusive to you while you were living at home and going to high school.

On what basis were your parents permitting this? Or were you refusing to obey them?

Depression is all about disempowerment so don't grab the victim card too quickly. The bad guy card will actually do you more good so grab it when you can. What were your choices over those four years, and on what basis were you making them? Are they choices that you will make again or do you see something wrong with them?

Is there a lesson you've learned about human nature, about 16 yr old girls, about teenaged boys? About parents? what have you absorbed from this?

When you learn something valuable you have turned bad into good. That's all you have to do to overcome it is to fully understand it and learn from it. Understanding and empowerment are the cure for depression.
nightingale77
nightingale77
hi there, sorry to hear that you are going through a very difficult time right now and I really wanna thank you for sharing it on this platform. It takes courage to share and I'm glad you did. Unfortunately, it doesn't take a snap of fingers and depression will magically disappear. It din happen like that. Healing takes place slowly and it's a process but it will happen. There is hope and there is always light at the end of the tunnel, there is. Don't give up just yet. I can understand how hard on some days you need to just take 1 step forward. It take every ounce of the strength that you have, i know. But even that, don't stop taking the baby step forward.

I'm not sure if you are open to seeing a therapist. It may help you to cope with the post trauma stress you might be experiencing now from your abusive relationship. You don't have to suffer alone. Hang in there. Praying for you!
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