Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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houston28 03/19/2013

Hi guys,
i have been doing a lot of research regarding my depression and why i do some of the things i do.
i do know that depression runs in my family, but i have also become aware of the fact that i think i have a codependent personality. I HATE to be alone, have low self esteem, and am constantly looking for the approval of others (amongst other things). Anyone out there sturggle with this and was able to overcome it? any advice??

deleted_user 03/19/2013

I think everyone has a different self image, then what others see. Doing thing like silently reaffirming yourself is a great way to improve self image.

DCUK 03/19/2013

WELCOME HONEY TO THE GROUP,

HUGGLES N CUDDLES YOUR WAY [[;DC]]...

IM REALLY NOT THE RIGHT ONE TOO ANSWER YOUR QUESTION HUN BUT IM SURE YOUR GET A FEW REPLIES GOOD LUCK

deleted_user 03/19/2013

I haven't over come it- I have been told I am co-dependant and that's why I "let" men use me and treat me badly. I don't mind being alone for the most part- I am alone pretty much all the time, I am also lonely.
I like to do nice things for other people but would also like to have someone do things for me once in a while. I guess I haven't accepted that I am the problem yet.

Cypressmoon1 03/19/2013

I have codependent tendencies. I am currently in therapy, and we're working on "loving myself". Usually, I hear this and think "I love myself, it's everyone else who has a problem with me." or "But, it's human to want someone else to love you." and "It's pretty sad that you have to tell yourself nice things because no one else will." So, I had a really hard time knowing HOW to love myself. Then, it hit me. I am going to think of myself the exact way I think of my boyfriends when I feel I love them. I thought I would give it a try just to see if it worked.

So, when I started to "fall in love" with myself, I found that it felt like I was even more special than I thought. It sounds conceited, but it actually makes you more approachable. I think I was hit on 3 times that week. I was also able to let go of being responsible for everything going on around me. I actually am not. The only reason I took that responsibility is because I didn't believe I was loveable. That isn't true. I only help when I want to and not because I have to....I don't help because I feel that other people are as helpless as I once felt either. People are ultimately responsible for themselves and their own behavior.

These are some beliefs that codependents are challenged with and being in love with myself has been an avenue that has helped me experience this reality for myself. Hope that makes sense. Good luck!

deleted_user 03/19/2013

There is a codependency group on here that will be able to provide you with some great advice. Like so many other things in life, its not something you overcome in a few days, but you can put yourself into a good position to win the battle.

deleted_user 03/19/2013

I have depression,and low self esteem,so I can relate to what you are saying. it sucks, and yes,it does reflect on our relationships,in a negitive way...

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