AWW HONEY PLEASE DONT CRY,

YOUR NOT A FAILURE ITS OUR DAMN DEPRESSIONS THAT FEEDS US THOSE LIES...

YOUR FLU HONEY IS ADDING TO IT ALL RIGHT NOW SO JUST FORGET YOUR GOAL/S!!! RIGHT NOW AND WHEN YOUR FEELING BETTER START AGAIN,

IF YOU GOT DISHES THAT NEEDS WASHING UP [[[WHY NOT LEAVE THEM TO SOAK OVER NIGHT MAKEING THE TASK EASIER]]] JUST DONT BURDEN YOUR MIND WITH TO MUCH [[[THAT WILL ONLY PUT YOU OFF!!! BEFOR YOUVE BEGUN]]] ...

JUST GO THROUGH AND GET RID OF ANY RUBBISH FIRST [[[YOUR BE AMAZED OF HOW MUCH SPACE IT CAN AND DOSE TAKES UP]]] ,

BUT DONT EVEN BOTHER IF OR WHEN YOUR UNWELL IT WILL STILL BE THERE WAITING...

BUT A GOOD TIP IS TO !!! TURN UP THE MUSIC AS YOU CLEAN HAPPY ENERGY ALWAYS HELPS ;D.

HUGGLES N CUDDLES FROM DC.

You've been sick. Give youself a break. When you're sick with the flu, tj e only thing you should be doing is sleeping and taking care of your body. And then the sore throat, same thing happened to me. Let's justsay my new years resolution started off slow too. Hey maybe Feb.will be a start. And maybe make getting well one of your goals. That way you can check it off as an accomplishment and a step forward instead of a step backward.

Although you may be overwhelmed with "simple chores" just take it easy and tend to your sickness first. Once you feel alot better and have full control of your mind and body, continue to work on your small goals and you will eventually get back on the right track. Try to stop yourself from feeling so overwhelmed and start feeling accomplished once youve finished the smaller tasks at hand.

Please Don't be So Hard On Yourself.
You Are NOT A Failure!!!!
Working A Full Time Job While You're Sick Is Extremely Difficult!!
Give Yourself A Time To Regain Your Strength.


(((((HUGS)))) I Hope You Are Feeling Better :)

You can't expect big things from yourself while you are sick! You need to go slow and let yourself heal. Sleep if you need to, have chicken soup, take some vitamin C. Don't worry about the house while you are sick.

I could've written this post. My house is one of my worst enemies. I am so exhausted when I get home from work, I don't want to clean or do more work. Then I get more depressed because my house is a mess! I want to hibernate and forget it all...

So I have been trying to do JUST ONE small thing at a time. Not "CLEAN THE BATHROOM BY 6PM!!!!!" like my mother used to write on my to-do lists like it was the end of the world if it wasn't finished at 6:01. Just one little thing, like wiping off the counter or windexing the mirror when I go to wash my hands. When I get a drink from the fridge, I throw out something that needs it. Little stuff like that. It breaks up the gigantic, enormous, world-ending task into bite-size pieces. Sometimes I do well and take a few bites. Other times, not so much.

That's how depression is for me. Some days you carry the invisible 500-lb. weight, and the bathroom gets cleaned or whatever. Other days you get crushed by the weight and do nothing. You are not a failure when the weight crushes you. (Someone please remind me of that later.)

I know how you feel...that's all I can offer you right now...

I can't even think about a part-time job right now...so don't be so hard on your self....

sorry i can't offer more advice...and I hope we feel better soon...

You are not a failure. You are suffering from several illnesses including depression. First, make sure you rest up and are feeling physically better. When you get to that point, try again doing one small goal each day. You can do this. Just be kind to yourself when your depression symptoms show up.

Hugs. You're not a failure. A lot of us struggle with keeping the house neat and it's a thankless job! My mother says, "don't worry, the dirt will be there when you get back, it's not goin anywhere". I know it's depressing when the house is gross, but a little at a time.

You know what helped me when I was depressed, I followed it for years,.www.flylady.net it's freehand really helpful...talks about adopting one good habit a month..and even helps with depression in my opinion.

You wouldn't be so hard on a friend, so try not to be so hard on yourself my friend. You deserve kindness and patience with yourself.

My hubby has given me gingseng to take 3 times s day for 3 days. You have all given some excellent advice. I looked up www.fly lady. It looks like a good way to start. For those of you who are feeling like me check it out. So tomorrow I "clean my sink". Hubby has ordered rest for me. I am not usually the sick one in the family. But this month was a bad month. I find the depression forum has very kind and helpful people. I have feeling very low in my self esteem do you all have lifted me up!

Baby steps...rest...then squeeze in light exercise...maybe a walk in the morning.

You've got a good hubby there. Ginseng IS good. I also like ginger. Maybe pop a Vitamin D. It makes up for the lack of natural Vitamin D we normally get from the sun during the summer months.

Did you see this article here? http://www.dailystrength.org/health_blogs/cyndi/article/the-effects-of-end-of-day-housework-on-both-men-and-women

Fascinating study. Basically, if you are a woman and you go home after work and have to clean, your stress level does NOT decrease AT ALL unless your partner helps out. If you are a man, your stress level only decreases if your partner handles everything. In other words, it's a catch-22!

Agreeing with the others, let yourself heal and rest.

Breaking things down is always good.

Hell, sometimes I've had to break down something as simple as a SHOWER when the depression was really bad! Whatever it takes, eh? Be good to yourself :)

I agree with DCUK... You are not a failure. You have been sick, you have to live with this disgusting depression, and you have a lot on your plate. Continue doing what you are doing with taking things a little at a time, but maybe take even smaller steps, baby steps. It will all get done, and you won't get yourself sick in the meantime. Make tasks easier on yourself like DCUK said about the dishes soaking, and take one part of a room at a time, don't try to do the whole room if it overwhelms you. And let us know how you are coming along so we can support you along the way. Hang in there hon. Hugs GB

It's okay, the mess isn't going anywhere. Do what you can when you can. I mean, let be sensible, do the dishes and clean the kitchen and bath but the clutter and dusting does not have to be done today. Yesterday, I caught my grand daughter writing pictures in the dust on my furniture. Total shame. Will spend most of the day cleaning today.

On thing, you said you have a lot of stuff. Do you need it all or is it just niche naks or dust collectors as my Mom use to call them. Are there things in there you can do without and get rid of the clutter. This was hard for me, I was always the more stuff the merry. I have run out of room for stuff. I don't put out much due to the kids but by getting rid of some of the decor and clutter, I don't feel so overwhelmed by cleaning. Just a thought.

I know what you mean about being overwhelmed by even the littlest chore. My apartment is a total mess too and I just don't have the energy to get much done in any one day. So I do what I can when I can and the rest will still be there for me to do when I can do it. You are working a full time job and battling the flu on top of that? Be gentle to yourself and give yourself time to heal. Would you be so mean to your best friend? Just be gentle to yourself and deal with things as they come.

Annie