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My husband had an online affair. I'm not sure when it started, but I had been begging him for 3 years to stop talking to this girl. He refused, and sat there, uncaring, every time I cried and begged. I noticed he was acting strange for a long time, and I finally needed to know what exactly was going on. I found their online chats and I was devastated, to say the least. I found out about his love affair the day after our 9th wedding anniversary. The night of our anniversary, we had dinner when I got home from work, and he was in a hurry to eat and run back to the basement to his computer. Now I know why, of course.
When I confronted him about his affair, he only made excuses, then lied to me and said it was over. He hasn't stopped talking to her. I have never been given an apology. When I tell him how hurt I am, he ignores me. He says nothing at all. He acts as though I'm not even speaking.
Every day since I found out, I have wanted to die. I've even gone so far as to plan out how I would kill myself (it's a brilliant plan, one that there is no chance of surviving and becoming a vegetable). But I have a son, and I love him more than life itself, so he keeps me from doing it.
I want to leave. I desperately want to leave! But I'm 600 miles from my entire family. Leaving isn't an option due to financial difficulties.
I just wish he would talk to me. I wish he would do something. ANYTHING. I wish he would stop hiding everything he does online and stop talking to her. I wish he would show me that he loves me. I wish he would do something to convince me to stay. But he doesn't. He won't.
Every since this happened, my life has gone to hell. I can't keep a job. I can't sleep. I don't want to eat. I cry when I'm alone. It's getting more and more difficult to fake a smile. I don't want to live, but I have to.
I just wish he would be a husband for once. I wish he cared about what he's done to me. He's always been the one to fix everything, but he refuses to fix this. He pretends as if nothing ever happened. He pretends as though I'm not hurting. He seems to think life just goes on while I sit here in tears every single day and night. Not one day has gone by that I haven't cried since our anniversary on February 20th. That's a LOT of tears. I have been suffering from his silence and I don't know what to do :(
When I confronted him about his affair, he only made excuses, then lied to me and said it was over. He hasn't stopped talking to her. I have never been given an apology. When I tell him how hurt I am, he ignores me. He says nothing at all. He acts as though I'm not even speaking.
Every day since I found out, I have wanted to die. I've even gone so far as to plan out how I would kill myself (it's a brilliant plan, one that there is no chance of surviving and becoming a vegetable). But I have a son, and I love him more than life itself, so he keeps me from doing it.
I want to leave. I desperately want to leave! But I'm 600 miles from my entire family. Leaving isn't an option due to financial difficulties.
I just wish he would talk to me. I wish he would do something. ANYTHING. I wish he would stop hiding everything he does online and stop talking to her. I wish he would show me that he loves me. I wish he would do something to convince me to stay. But he doesn't. He won't.
Every since this happened, my life has gone to hell. I can't keep a job. I can't sleep. I don't want to eat. I cry when I'm alone. It's getting more and more difficult to fake a smile. I don't want to live, but I have to.
I just wish he would be a husband for once. I wish he cared about what he's done to me. He's always been the one to fix everything, but he refuses to fix this. He pretends as if nothing ever happened. He pretends as though I'm not hurting. He seems to think life just goes on while I sit here in tears every single day and night. Not one day has gone by that I haven't cried since our anniversary on February 20th. That's a LOT of tears. I have been suffering from his silence and I don't know what to do :(
Maybe a marriage counselor could help. But if you cant reach out to him, it looks as if he doesnt have a conscience.
Praying for you, and warm hugs.
Of course, I also like the idea of smashing his computer but I don't think that will give you the results you desire.
Hugs to you. I know it's devastating. It will get better if YOU make a change.
I have wanted to smash his computer, but I can't let my anger take control of me. It will just make me look like a psycho and won't change his mind about the internet "girlfriend".
We've tried counseling, but he just got mad every time we left. The whole drive home was an argument because I said things he didn't like during our session.
I think I will go for myself, though. I am so stressed about a lot of things right now, and maybe it will help me, even if it doesn't help my marriage.