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Birthday Blues

ruthgrps
ruthgrps

I havent posted here for sometime, but, yesterday I suddenly realised that instead of being 55 I am actually now 56, and in a weeks time 57 it will be my birthday.  In a way I am dreading it.  We used to be able to afford to go away for my birthday in Britain but a resort where the weather doesnt matter.  We cant afford that anymore.  I also realised yesterday that going by my parents death they both died in their early 70's that I dont have much time left.  I know anyone can die at any time, or get knocked over and die.  But that isnt helping me at the moment.  If we were away my birthday it would just pass by fairly easily.  This year its on a Sunday, which doesnt help, not that we will see anyone, it would be better on a Monday or Wednesday, when my disabled daughter (non visible disabilities) would not be at home for most of the day, I know I have presents, but the rest of the day is just going to be empty, its too cold to go out, and we couldnt afford it anyway.  Inside I feel so upset, but I am going to have to act happy, or at least normal for the majority of the day.  Anyone have any suggestions that could help!

Diddle
Diddle
First of all I would like to wish you a happy birthday for next week

As its too cold too go out could you enjoy some family time with your daughter maybe watch a good film , play some board games or play some music all of which don't cost anything

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you and you have a great time
Bluebird20
Bluebird20
Early Happy Birthday wishes! Another suggestion to add to Diddle's is maybe if you like baking you and your daughter can make a nice meal and a birthday cake for you to all enjoy.
OLDBIKER
OLDBIKER
I too, wish you a happy birthday, Don't try to gauge your lifespan by your parents. That can, in some cases give you a guideline but, I have known some to outlive their parent's death years by many, many years. I never dreamed I'd live to the age I am now and I have a little saying : "Age is a matter of the mind. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter", Try to enjoy every day, the best you can. Life is a gift that's why it's called the present. Hope this helps.
shorthairskr
shorthairskr
So many thoughts! I wish you a peaceful birthday and that you can let go of your negative thoughts. Getting old is not easy. I notice when I let go of the thoughts and name them negative and unhelpful, I get some relief. The serenity prayer helps me too. Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. I repeat this as a mantra to replace my negative thoughts. Know that people care about you. There is hope. Things can change at any time. Have the best day you can manage. Let it be good enough if you can. Peace and love to you.
curtbrainfre3z
curtbrainfre3z
Happy birthday! The major reason we wish people happy birthday in the first place to to celebrate their time being alive the past 365 days. There is always something in your life you can find to celebrate and birthdays are a yearly reminder that you can use for that. Always think of the positives in life, even if they don't seem obvious, they exist!
bethelbee
bethelbee
Just try to enjoy the day with your family. Do something you all can enjoy. Age is just a number. I am 63 and hardly think about it. Like Oldbiker said we can't gauge how long we'll live from our parents.
Here's wishing you a Happy Birthday!! Hope you're able to enjoy it!
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