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I have pretty much always been single. I'm 23 years old and I have spent a bout a grand total of 6 months of my life NOT single.
I don't often complain about it.
And for the most part I'm fine with it.
I have never felt the overwhelming *need* to have a boyfriend.
I've never been one to date for the sake of dating, or to have a boyfriend for the sake of having a boyfriend.
I don't feel insecure because I am single. I truly believe that I am attractive, and that there is nothing wrong with me.
I don't feel incomplete or particularly like there is something missing in my life. I don't feel like I have a void to fill. And I don't feel like I am worse off than people who are in relationships, or that it is unfair that I haven't found anyone, or any of that jazz.
But the more years pass by, the more I desire that companionship.
I don't *need* it - I am just fine without it... but it would be nice. And there are times that I really do get sick and tired of being single.
It's hard to explain how I feel about being single. I like being independent, and I like the fact that I don't rely on a relationship to make me feel good about myself. And I really do feel that, single or not, I lead a fulfilling and meaningful life. I don't feel like there is something *missing* .... but I do feel like there is something left to be desired, if that makes any sense?
I don't often complain about it.
And for the most part I'm fine with it.
I have never felt the overwhelming *need* to have a boyfriend.
I've never been one to date for the sake of dating, or to have a boyfriend for the sake of having a boyfriend.
I don't feel insecure because I am single. I truly believe that I am attractive, and that there is nothing wrong with me.
I don't feel incomplete or particularly like there is something missing in my life. I don't feel like I have a void to fill. And I don't feel like I am worse off than people who are in relationships, or that it is unfair that I haven't found anyone, or any of that jazz.
But the more years pass by, the more I desire that companionship.
I don't *need* it - I am just fine without it... but it would be nice. And there are times that I really do get sick and tired of being single.
It's hard to explain how I feel about being single. I like being independent, and I like the fact that I don't rely on a relationship to make me feel good about myself. And I really do feel that, single or not, I lead a fulfilling and meaningful life. I don't feel like there is something *missing* .... but I do feel like there is something left to be desired, if that makes any sense?
It is far FAR better to to happier single than married and miserable.
Personally, not sure how I even feel about the notion of a proper "marriage." I'm not so sure it's natural or even desirable to commit yourself to a life-long exclusive relationship...
I'm not talking here about being tired of being single in the legal sense of being unmarried. I couldn't care less if I ever get married... but I'm getting tired of being perpetually single, ya know?
And I have to be honest for a second and admit that it almost entirely comes down to sex and intimacy. That is the main reason I have for wanting a relationship. Everything else is just a bonus, really.
I have friends and family for companionship.
I am quite capable of supporting myself.
What I can't get from myself or from my friends are two things:
1. Sex
2. Cuddling
And I am fairly sure that those are 2 things that adults are hardwired to want.
Now I am 41 and been basically single for the last 13 years.
Funny how life goes....
But what I'm talking about here isn't wanting to find a life partner or whatever... I'm talking about the here and now - because that's where I live. I'm really not worried about finding my perfect match or getting married or whatever... I'm tired of being single right NOW... because right NOW there are things that I want that I am not getting.
Get what I mean? I dunno.. maybe it sounds stupid to other people, but this is how I feel about it.
For me, my frustration with being single is more about physical, natural needs not being met than it is about emotional or companionship needs not being met.
I don't worry about my age. I'm 50...there are lots of 50 year old guys and older out there who look really good to me lol. But as I said...it'll happen when it's meant to happen.