Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.
It has been a while since I have posted in this group. I have been in the miscarriage and pregnancy after loss groups for the last few months. I have depression and anxiety. I have also been off my meds for almost 7 months, since July 2013 when I found out I was pregnant. I have my good days but I also have my bad days. My Ob doctor just told me that I could start taking some depression meds if I feel like I need to again since I am almost at the end of my pregnancy, 28 weeks. But I feel like I should wait and just go the last 12 weeks in my pregnancy without the meds and just call my other doctor after I have my baby and get back on my meds asap or get my ob to get me on them after I have the baby so I don't go into postpartum depression after I have my baby. I just feel like since I have been this far without the meds that I can go the last 12 weeks. Its not been easy by any means. I have a 9 year old son who has ADHD and angry problems. I also have a 3 year old son who is showing the same signs as my 9 year old son with the ADHD and angry problems. I feel overwhelmed at times and there are times that I just want to stay in the bed and cry all the time because of how I feel and depressed I get. But I know that I can't do that with my boys needing me. I am trying my best to stay on the good note, so the say, with everything but I have had so much going wrong with my life right now I just don't know if I can take it much more.
I some times feel like a bad mom because I don't want to do anything half the time and simple things have been making me snap, like the dog braking at something, the way the kitchen looks (examples). Before you ask, no I don't snap at my kids. I just go and take a break in the bathroom and take some deep breaths away from them so that they don't see me in a way that they shouldn't see me in. I just don't know what to so anymore. Plus with the baby coming in the next 2 months, I am going crazy trying to get everything done that needs to be done. I just feel lost most of the time and I don't need to feel like that with two kids and with me being in school trying to finish my business admin. degree. I just don't know how much longer I can hang on with things going the way that they right now.
I some times feel like a bad mom because I don't want to do anything half the time and simple things have been making me snap, like the dog braking at something, the way the kitchen looks (examples). Before you ask, no I don't snap at my kids. I just go and take a break in the bathroom and take some deep breaths away from them so that they don't see me in a way that they shouldn't see me in. I just don't know what to so anymore. Plus with the baby coming in the next 2 months, I am going crazy trying to get everything done that needs to be done. I just feel lost most of the time and I don't need to feel like that with two kids and with me being in school trying to finish my business admin. degree. I just don't know how much longer I can hang on with things going the way that they right now.
I hope things get better!
Peace.
We're all bad moms, IN OUR MINDS. When my son was three, I was OVERWHELMED. I had no support. I was so sad. I would wake up and not know how I was going to be a mom to someone who was running around nonstop and drinking Juicy Juice all day.
One word. Delegate.
If you can, for an hr let someone step in. If that's not an option, dont even worry about it, I'm at year 14 and he cant remember a thing! lol!!!!
I STILL worry. Just worried a friend on here about it.
I applaude you as a mom! We're not meant to be robots. Your strength and stamina are incredible!!!!!
My son washed with CONDITIONER tonight. All I could was sit back down! I just couldnt explain it any further girl...........
Seriously, when I look back at my time as a mom of a toddler and young child of one, I wasnt that bad. I wasnt super, I was tired, I was not a stay in the kitchen mom. If I had this site then though, I would have understood that I wasnt a bad mom, I was just a mom. I only saw what I didnt do.
About the medicine.........
Talk to your doctor AND research. You have made it quite a way in your pregnancy. I remember week the third trimester. You cant even walk without thinking about possible dangers to your baby. I made it, but then again if I had a three yr old, a nine year old, school and was pregnant, I'd be THROUGH.
Trust me. We're not as bad as we think. I think we mess up when we try to fit the perfect mode. You get up, deal with your boys and the public! Kudos!
To wait until after the birth to start anti-depressants is such a good idea. EFT tapping therapy is one totally safe, amazing, (and free, so it's underestimated) proven aid in depression.
Getting rid of clutter, especially in the kitchen, is so freeing - I had to
get rid of things that I was sure I had to have, when I moved.
When I could finally afford to replace it, I didn't want to give up the
counter space and how much quicker I could get things done.
Can you wait on the college classes for a while? That's so demanding, even without a new baby and 2 young children.
I hope things get much better for you soon, so you can enjoy your
wonderful family and what, for most, is the best part of life, even if
it is exhausting and overwhelming much of the time.
Anger Pinterest Board:
http://www.pinterest.com/kristta/anger-management/