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Background Character

allthemonsters02
allthemonsters02

Do you ever feel like a background character, not only on other people's lives but in your own as well? Like you're not even the main character of your own story, just a minor supporting role. I hate it so much and I don't know what to do about it.

Breezy28
Breezy28
The best part of life I think is getting to write a new page in your story with new memories to make every single day. Nobody can tell your story for you, only you can. Superhero stories are fine but I bet if you look at yourself in a new light, you’ll find that you are your own superhero. :)
ABusch
ABusch
Yes... I do, and I know full well that some days it feels like you're not even in the background, everything just moves as if you don't exist at all. Personally, I stopped trying to be the main character, and instead used everyone's lack of notice to my advantage. I picked up a lot of interesting information by listening, learning things that are useful to know, but that are seemingly just tidbits of random information. When someone asks something related to it, say a technology problem or a legal point, I can help them, and for the next little while, I feel like I'm actually in the story. Then I fade myself out, so I feel like it's my choice.
See if you can find something to do in the background, something useful, or creative, or even funny. Do it in the background and someone will bring you into the story for a little bit, and then choose to fade yourself out.
I don't think there's really a single answer, as with many things. But since you're in the background, explore it. You might just find something that you didn't know you were looking for.
Stars guide you
red47640
red47640
Yes I do, sometimes I feel like I'm just on the sidelines of my own life. It sucks big time. Try taking small steps to re-own your life, whether it's just making the decision to get out and take a walk, or learning something new online. YouTube has a ton of great instructional videos for whatever the hell anyone may want to learn. I know it doesn't seem like it right now, but this is YOUR life, and if you don't live it, you'll regret it when it's almost over. Sorry to sound morbid, but it's true. Thinking of you, and I know you have the ability to do this. We all have a choice in how we live our lives.