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whatswrong19
whatswrong19

so I'm having a really hard time getting over some shady crapp that was intentional and personal from administration where I work.  I mean it was completely intentional and directed at me.  This crapp took place a few weeks ago, and I am trying to find a better position somewhere else, but it's not like places around here are handing out decent jobs. My anger is really festering,  I want to leave this situation so badly that there are times when I the only reason I don't do something stupid, to myself or others, is because I have parents who depend on me, and a kid in college.  I don't want to hang on to this anger, but I can't stop it, and the depression swirls along with the anger,  and there are times when I hate everyone around me, especially if they laugh about anything at all.  I really want to pay back the one who did this to me, but I don't want to want that because it's so unhealthy, doing it, or just wanting to do it.  I need some help.

machoorozconpollo
machoorozconpollo
I’ll help you. You got they’re number? U want me to call them and say something? Nobody messes with my friends and enjoys it. Sabotage is shady.! Throwing ppl under the bus is shady. But what goes around comes around.!
SimpsonsOK
SimpsonsOK
OK. They are who they are and they do what they do. You are likely not the first, nor the last, they will do this too. Focus on the fact that you are now there temporarily. This is not where you will be forever. No more free rent in your head for them. This is temporary until you get to the next job. Calming hugs.
Suchaslife
Suchaslife
I can tell you right now there not worth the time or the energy to be mad at them. Trust me ive been were you are its not fun or easy.
whatswrong19
whatswrong19
thank you all for your support here, it really means a lot to have people hear you (even if it is in writing) I am doing some better today, and focusing my energies again on better things. and Simpons I'm definitely not the first, we've had 3 supervisors leave this place in the span of two months, not counting the social workers. It's all because of ONE person in admin, who is good at somethings, but should not be the person who doles out discipline, she has no clue what is a problem and what is not a problem with employees.
jaynib
jaynib
You are ahead of the game to realize what's going on, with others and in yourself. I can't count the number of toxic work environments I've had to deal with. I just prayed and prayed and looked for other jobs and thought the situation would never end. I couldn't understand why justice didn't prevail (and still wonder at times) but I did gain strength from enduring those horrible things and so will you. I understand feeling righteous anger but be careful with this. I'm sure it's justified but make sure you channel this in healthy ways. Journal your feelings and talk it out with someone supportive. After that you leave it God and trust that your doing the right things will come back to bless you while those who do evil will eventually get the fruit of how they live. To hold onto anger does the most harm to you and the ones you love.
misterj913
misterj913
A very similar thing happened to me a number of years ago. I was blamed for something I did not do. The administration came down hard and my union folks gave me no help at all. I was depressed back then but dealing with it. But ever since this incident I have dug myself a hole that I am still trying to dig myself out of. The anger I feel for the person who did this will not go away. My life was turned completely around. I wound up getting transferred which made things worse. Panic attacks, not wanting to go to work, so depressed. After a few years my chronic pain forced me to retire. 3 years short of a full pension. Things a little better know with my depression but I still can not get it out of my mind what was done to me.