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Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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pchamber 04/13/2018

Hi everyone. Three years ago I moved away from my home town to Atlanta. I moved here with my ex husband hoping for a life with more opportunity and less drama. But when I got here my husband started doing well and left me homeless with my four kids. I got drunk one night and my kids called ems thinking something was wrong with me because I wanted alone time. Then after that we became homeless. I searched everywhere for a job and support to pay my bills non came. So CPS took my kids and gave them to my parents who called them in me in the first place. Well in those three years things have gotten better. I have a house, car, and income. Even have a new person in my life who treat me different. My parents and all my family have fought me tooth and nail to regain custody and bring my kids back with me. But now my kids dad is suing me for custody although they live with my parents. My parents say they would give them back if i move back. The whole reason i left was because they were stealing from me, lying on me and I could not have a life. It was like they were trying to live their life through me but I know if I move back i will feel trapped like before. I've prayed and prayed for answers and now im asking for help. I want honesty cause maybe Im missing what everyone else sees.

SimpsonsOK 04/13/2018

OK, the process begins with you applying for return of the children, and doing anything CPS or court requests. Courts want the children back with a parent/s. Worst outcome would be shared custody with ex. He will have a problem if he has not been paying child support to your parents. He may see a benefit to shared custody where he doesn't have to pay anything. There are options for you. Oh, there are parents that like the income from fostering/agreeing to take custody of grandchildren. Many do it out of love for nothing, but you know your parents. They also don't know the new you. Hugs on this journey to reunite with your children.

SomeGuy092 04/14/2018

All of that sounds awful. I cannot relate to your situation at all. You have done a lot from being homeless to having your own house and car. Not many people are that lucky. If you can do what the laws of custody require of you, maybe you can get your kids back. Be strong set yourself as a good example as a parent who has been through Heck and back. Good luck and may God bless you

Fadedgypsy 04/15/2018

So after 3 years all the sudden your ex wants custody. What's that about is he jealous you're doing good without him and you have moved on that's what it sounds like to me.. and it also sounds like to me there's no guarantees that if you move that that your parents would actually follow through was giving your kids back and besides that I can't just give them back if the court took them away then it has to come to the court they can't make that decision. I would stay put you're already dealing with the system in the town you live in you're on your feet and doing well why go back if you know people are just gonna drag you down. Unless you think the courts of the most favorable to you in your hometown. Prayers for you that this all goes in your favor

pchamber 04/21/2018

Thanks guys. Much appreciated. It's been hard cause although I pray I'm not sure what move to make next. I appreciate your words of encouragement.

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