I am sorry you are struggling. It sounds like it is important that you look out for yourself first. It is difficult to help others when you are struggling yourself. Have you seen a counselor about your self-harm? It is important to seek professional help when we hurting ourselves. You need to learn other ways to cope when under stress and pressure. Most important give yourself a break and don't be so hard on yourself. I am not sure the ages of those you are trying to help, but you might need to explain to them that you need to focus on yourself feeling well before you can help them. I will be praying for you. Please reach out for professional hep. It is so important that you take time for yourself, do things you enjoy, and not focus on the things that cause you stress. I know it is easier said than done. But I believe you can set time aside to do things you like. Going for a walk with a friend, taking a bath and listening to uplifting music, playing a game. Whatever you can do to take your mind off of your stress and harming yourself. I will be praying for you. Know you are not alone, there are others who struggle. It is good you are reaching out, we are here to encourage and care. You mentioned this is a relapse. What worked the last time you stopped cutting? Please stay in touch and let us know how you are doing. God Bless!

Make yourself a priority, be nice to yourself, take care of yourself first. Rgat is the only way can be able to take care of and helps others..

I know the caretaking thing is horribly hard. i'm dealing with something similar. who are you trying to keep afloat? make an appointment to take a bath. like write it on your calendar. or make an appointment to take a nap... shit like that. I try to do that sometimes. I think we have to do stuff like that if only so we can be there for those who need up. will stay in touch. hugs.

If you don't put yourself first, you won't be able to help the others who are needing you because you will be come so drained.
You need to put yourself first, and I think you will come to realize that people are more capable than they appear. People can often times try to lean on those they know they can lean on all the time because it makes their lives easier - but at the end of the day it is making the other persons life less easy. If you don't continuously give these people the opportunity to lean on you, and depend on you so much, they will get themselves up and take better care of themselves - and in the mean time you get to also.

I recommend just prioritizing yourself first, then if you really want to help others, help the ones that you deem the most 'worthy' and the ones that seem to need it the most. Don't try to help everyone because at the end of the day, it puts both of you down more.

Good luck.
I hope you feel better!

How are you doing this week? I have been praying for you.

Thank you everyone for your words. I’m not great, the cutting and food avoidance is becoming an issue again but I’m trying

Are you seeing a counselor about the cutting and food avoidance? It is really important you get the help you need. When I struggled I didn't harm myself physically, but I did not have any appetite. When I received the right medication and counseling. I began to feel better and learned how to appreciate myself. It is important you get help so you can feel better. Then you can help others. My prayers are with you. God Bless!

Mjay, you have to take care of yourself. If you fall apart, or are hospitalized, you can't take care of your friends. Step away from all of them, they will find someone else. You'd be surprised at how people find a way!

I hear what you are saying, but I am in so much pain, and feel so alone. I don’t share it often but when I do I feel afraid I will push people away. I cant step away and expect my loved ones to feel that too

This is a safe place to share. You won't push us away. We understand the pain and struggle. You are not alone. Until you feel better, it is hard to care for anyone else. Please look in to seeking help for yourself. My prayers continue to be with you. You are important and you need to get help to feel better.

I hope you are feeling better and have taken some steps to care for yourself. It is true that we cannot help others when we are struggling ourselves. I would like to share a link to encourage you. Praying you are feeling better!
https://bit.ly/2xonvIF