Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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yetive 02/13/2017

unfortunately I'm at a point where I pretty much no my marriage is over. My anxiety and depression played a role in it however, being married to someone who has anxiety and anger issues also played a role. I'm scared to start over because I don't know where to start. Im a weak and insecure person who's scared to be alone.

bridgie101 02/13/2017

You leave when it's worse to be with them than alone. As to insecurity, you might find you are more secure solo for a while.

TooMuch 02/13/2017

same. weak, insecure, scared to be alone, marriage over. you have to do what you have to do. and there is no need to rush it really. (i am talking out of my ass because i am freaking out at least as much as you are at the thought of starting over) hugs.

yetive 02/13/2017

I have to admire your honest@toomuch

whatswrong19 02/20/2017

when things don't work out when we had so much hope and investment in trying to make it work, yes the disintegration of it leaves us feeling desperate and like a total failure. I've been through it, twice in marriages and once with an engagement that really tore my life and outlook all to hell.

Bella12 02/20/2017

Sorry you are going through this. When your ready it is never too late to start over. Never give up hope.

hubbardalicia 02/21/2017

Hey yetive, sorry to hear about your situation. Anger and anxiety are definitely villains in a relationship. If they are not balanced properly, things can really turn out to be a mess.
I can understand from what you have said that both of you have got anger and anxiety issues. I guess none of you were ready for a compromise, and that might have caused the problem to worsen.
If you want to start over the relation and scared of it, then it is better to consult a mediator and seek his help. The mediator can be anyone who is close to you and your husband, and the one which knows your family really well. Tell him the issues in your marriage and ask him to act as a mediator between two of you. Be ready to compromise and start your journey all over again.

Debbalina 02/21/2017

I think what you are feeling is normal given the loss of your marriage. It would certainly add to your anxiety and depression at the prospect of being alone. While it can be scary to think of being alone, it takes some getting use to and you might get to the point where you even enjoy it. Give yourself a chance to adjust to your new situation.

yetive 03/07/2017

Thank you guys for your words of encouragement.

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