Get the hell away from this guy.

>>tried to force himself on me twice.

Two sexual assaults, possibly including battery?

I suggest you research how to build a case for a restraining order. You may need it.

Thank you. That is what my boyfriend said too. I will be recording dates and times that he tries to see me or talk to me. I am honestly pretty scared.

First, you have to establish proof that you have told him to stay away from you .... I think.

I have told him today to leave me alone. I have gotten a lot of phone calls and texts from him since. They started out apologetic but now they have become more angered. I am at least thankful that I never told him where I moved to. I am having a hard time not responding though.

Telling him is not proof. I am no expert on this ... but a restraining order has to START ... somewhere .. and it would probably be a police report .. where you MIGHT need proof you have told him to leave you alone. I REALLY DON'T KNOW though ... I am not experienced in this.

At some point, if he continues to contact you . you will need to call the police .. that starts the 'ball rolling' ... I would think.

and whatever you do .. do not respond to him.

I don't know anything about getting a restraining order either, so I'm sorry I can't offer better advice. Very, very sorry that you're dealing with this douchebag...and I hope that it doesn't go any further.

I would, however, save every single text, phone message, or any kind of communication he makes toward you. Even if you haven't gotten a restraining order yet, maybe they could be used to prove a stalkerish, dangerous personality? It's just a thought, but it couldn't hurt.

You need to call the police and let them know you have been a victim of domestic violence and make a report just to have them aware of the situation. Ask them also where you can go to get support so you can recover from the abuse. If you get into a group support situation you will not feel so alone with what you are trying to cope with. You need to value yourself enough to put a stop to the abuse or it may only get worse.

Here is a bit of information on the restraining order I've located:

A restraining order or order of protection is a form of legal injunction that requires a party to do, or to refrain from doing, certain acts. A party that refuses to comply with an order faces criminal or civil penalties and may have to pay damages or accept sanctions. Breaches of restraining orders, can be considered serious criminal offenses that merit arrest and possible prison sentences. The term is most commonly used in reference to domestic violence, harassment, stalking or sexual assault. In the United States, each state has some form of domestic violence restraining order law,[1] and many states also have specific restraining order laws for stalking[2] and sexual assault[3].

Restraining and personal protection order laws vary from one jurisdiction to another but all establish who can file for an order, what protection or relief a person can get from such an order, and how the order will be enforced.

When the abuser does something that the court has ordered him or her not to do, or refuses to do something the court has ordered him or her to do, that is a violation of the order. The victim can ask the police or the court, or both, depending on the violation, to enforce the order.

Be gentle with yourself and know that no one deserve to be abused EVER!!! ((hugs)) Patricia

yes .. save EVERY contact he makes to you .. all of them. At some point, you must make a 'complaint' to the police. that is how it starts. With the 'evidence, and the complaint, you are set up for a restraining order.

I am saving every text and voicemail. At the rate this is going as far as the messages I am getting now, I may have to make a complaint. I haven't responded at all to any of it but its really hard not to. I am starting to feel bad and I know I shouldn't. He has called me every name and keeps telling me to answer the phone. Now he is texting a lot. The last one said that it is bs that I am not talking to him after everything he has done for me over the years and how much he loves me. I can tell he is very angry.

You have a boyfriend. Who does this guy think he is? He is WAY out of line and you are seeing his bad side .. good thing you are not alone with him. He has an anger problem and a 'possession' problem where you are concerned.

I think he is dangerous and you should NOT engage him. You should also avoid him physically .. this is possessive behavior.

If he threatens you in any way, I think you should call the police. If you 'give in' to him, .. you will see this all again some other time .. only worse .. in my opinion.

If you do feel the need to keep contact with him perhaps you may want to ask yourself why you feel the need to allow someone in your life that has hurt you? It may be helpful for you to go to a support group for victims of domestic violence and they can help you explore those issues so you can protect yourself. Gentle ((hugs)) Patricia

This is when I wish my boyfriend wasn't deployed in the middle east. I would feel a lot better if he were here. I have not engaged him at all but he keeps messaging. He said he is coming to my work tomorrow to talk to me. He has been saying a lot of things that are not good so I have called the police because I am scared that he will try to confront me at work or somewhere else he knows that I go to.

I think that I feel that I deserve that behavior from someone because I do not think that I am worth much. I have a very messy past that includes being raped. I was a drug addict and I do not see myself as a good person that deserves anything good even though I have been sober a while before Friday happened.

Thank you everyone for your help. I will keep you updated. I am shaking, I am so scared.

I agree that it will only get worse if you see this guy again. I have been in this situation before, and what I've seen here tells me this isn't good at all. Stay away from him. You've just got to say good-bye and don't look back. Trust me, the guilt you are feeling right now will change once you go through the "BS" of having to go to court because of this guy. They'll try to blame you. People will look down on you for being involved in this situation at all.

Just walk away. Really, he's definately feeling some sort of ownership of you and the worst thing you could do is believe it.

charming, i think my reply was a little too late. But, I want to say this. You are just as "worth it" as anyone else. Life is a long journey and it is full of mistakes for everyone.

I know how you feel, and I guess I can admit that I feel the same way. Your current boyfriend may be able to change your mind. I truly hope he does, and I truly hope you let him.