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DJH 02/15/2008

hey all -

i thought i'd post something i was thinking about last night as i sat in the depression community.

we had a number of things happen yesterday on the site that might be more than coincidence:

1. there was a significant amount of stress in the depression community (judging from the posts)

2. we had a record number (by a HUGE margin) of hugs and U2U's.

i'm wondering if Valentine's Day is a particularly hard or stressful time for any of you? I know in the past it's been that way for me...either because I didn't have someone to share V-Day with, or because of tension in a relationship which Valentine's Day forced out into the open?

I could be just smoking something...but seems like Valentine's Day, amidst all the flowers and chocolate, may be a painful time for many?

doug

ThePepperMan 02/15/2008

There are times when I want to SMACK a person on a holiday for haveing the gaul darned nerve (cleaned it up a bit!) to suggest, no demand, that I feel a certain way.

Argh!

There were V-Days when the best i could come up with was that I liked a girl who at least knew I existed. Send a card? Yea, right, as if was the right timing.

I'm getting better at gearing up for holidays as I grow older. But the next person who uses a sugar laced voice to tell me I'm not in the right mood for the particular holiday may get an ear full!

OK, I'm better now!

deleted_user 02/15/2008

I have no idea, it has never meant anything to me. If you can't love someone or tell someone, whatever day it is. Why should some manmade day make any difference? I think it is an excuse for more consumerism and has nothing to do with love.

deleted_user 02/15/2008

I had many years that I hated Valentine's Day. It seemed like so much pressure to have a love one. Now I been married for almost 10 years . No more pressure to have a love one. I have one. Now it's like the pressure to have a prefect relationship which there is no such thing . Now I look at Valentine's as a day to show and express your love to your love ones. Be that your parents , your spouse or significant other, siblings or friends. You don't have to do anything big just remind them that you love and care for them.

Netminder 02/15/2008

I strongly believe that if Christmas Day didn't have such commercial hype preceding it from Thanksgiving Day forward that the one day totals for December 25 would blow away those from Feb. 14.

But because of the length of hype time prior to Christmas a lot of the angst is stretched out.

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