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a step ahead?

clarissa
clarissa

today I realize I need to go to therapy so I went with a psychiatrist. as always I was scared and thinking what I should tell her; but too I was anxious because I knew I was going in the correct path. as all in my life, something got wrong. 


1. my mom was super late so I entered with my grandma,I hated.


2. since the moment I entered the room i didn´t felt so confortable. meaning i wouldn't tell her al i was planning to.


3. i know it was the first time with her but I do not want to have another meeting with her. at the end of all i was crying and she didn´t have the words for controlling me or give me some advices before going. 


4. at the end, when we were home I collpase. I stared crying because I didn't like her also i want to get over this as fast as i can but everything has an obstacle so i dont really know if i should continue fighting or just give up....


biaxD05
biaxD05
I'm sorry to hear that those things didn't happen in the way you planned... well, if I were you I would give at least one more try to the psychiatrist and see how it goes... all the effort is worth in my opinion... like my therapist, I don't find her too good but it's the only one I can afford so it's better than nothing... don't give up! :)
clarissa
clarissa
i'll try but things will be a little more difficult, but as you said "something better than nothing".
biaxD05
biaxD05
I really hope it can be better next time!
Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
Can you put your finger on why you did not like this person? That may help you understand what is going on with you.

Some people write their feelings down on paper and hand that to the therapist. Perhaps you could do that next time. You can start with what you wrote here.

I did OK with the first anniversary of my mom's death, but then I was hyperfocused on my father (who would die about 3 weeks later) so I did not really confront it. This year, when the second anniversary hit, all i could do was write a note about the day, and hand that note to my wife. Sometimes that is all it takes, writing a note and handing it to the person you want to talk to.
Minidogs2
Minidogs2
Sorry that it went so badly the first time. Try replaying what you were feeling and thinking to try to figure it out. What exactly were you feeling when you decided that you couldn't tell her what you were planning to do? Is it just as hard to talk to any adults about your issues, or were you feeling or thinking something about this psychiatrist that made it harder? It is a good idea to write down your main feelings and thoughts before you go. That way your decision has already been made to reach out for help. It takes a lot of guts to reach out for help. Try to set your mind to go again. If it bothered you a lot that your mom wasn't there at first, maybe it's possible to go with her next time or make sure she is there on time.
Debbalina
Debbalina
I'm sorry to hear it didn't go like you wanted it to. Meeting people for the first time (especially doctors) can be intimidating and stressful. Everyone here has made good suggestions about writing things down and doing it beforehand. Also, first meetings can be very deceptive with people - some people can turn out to be great or some can be just bad. I'd give it another try. Like biaxd05 said, Im not wild about my therapist either but keep going because there is no one else right now and the process of finding someone new overwhelms me!