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A doomed future

dyinginside35
dyinginside35

I havent posted in a while but i need some help. Lately,  ive been feeling like im destined for a doomed future. Lately, ive been doing some thinking,  ive been focusing on bettering or improving myself but i feel like im destined to be a loser. For most of my life, i have always gone with the flow never really thinking about a career, what i want etc. The only thing that ive always been certain that i want is someone, a man to love me but men dont want a bonafied loser. 



Right now im working, trying to go to the gym, go to school etc. I know that i need a career so i can support myself. Im just so lost, can a history of trauma make it hard for someone to think about their future or what they want?

Nightcourt17
Nightcourt17
Definitely!! history of trauma affected my life until four years. That's when I started to think about my future and what I wanted to do with my life.
SuyB
SuyB
Yes, what Nightcourt said here....it affected my life until I went to get therapy at 34yrs old...im now 56yrs old and things are a lot better. I still take my antidepressant Prozac tho and probably will never stop taking that...Have you received any type of one on one therapy for your trauma? I was traumatized and didn't even know it...I thought it was all my fault! You're headed in the right direction Hugz!
OlderCPer
OlderCPer
Not knowing yet what you want to do for your living is not an unusual for someone your age. There are Career Counselors at the High Schools and in the Colleges where you can be tested for what your aptitudes are best to work in. Honestly it doesn't sound like you really want a career, sounds like being a housewife, a mommy and having a home to keep would be just fine, perhaps that should be the direction your looking toward.
sharaninmd
sharaninmd
Yes, a history of trauma can affect your life and your way of thinking. You are not a loser. You are just trying to find the direction you want to go in life. You may want to see a psychiatrist to talk about the trauma you have been through and how you are feeling. The doctor may recommend medication and recommend a therapist for you to talk to.
peterthegreat
peterthegreat
Find a career councelor. Find a life coach. There are tests to test what career suit you. Tests what is your passion.
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