I know you're brave, and I know you can do this. There is no "right" way to do it, and I think your plan sounds great. I'm sure once you take the first step to telling her the things you've held back before (and it's natural to hold back until you're sure you can trust the person), she'll ask you questions that will help you along. The more honest you are in your sessions, the more she'll be able to help you.

i have not always told my therapists the whole truth. like the time i wanted to tell her a member of my family and i got physical with each other.we hurt each other.how do you speak up about something like that without being asshamed and embarresed? i was also afraid she would get the police involved.i undersand what you mean but what are the limits?

thank you!!

Counselling is confidential....

Counselling is often performed face-to-face in confidential sessions between the counsellor and client(s). However, counselling can also be undertaken by telephone, in writing and, in these days of the Internet, by email or video conferencing.

Counselling can and may take many different formats to bring a person to a better understanding of them self and others. It can therefore be seen that counselling can be of benefit to a person experiencing problems in finding, forming, and maintaining relationships.

Relationship counselling is not about giving advice. It is about helping and supporting a person to find an understanding and answers that work for that person. Counselling is a friendly, supportive and positive approach to personal development.

Many people seeking counselling, have problems or past experiences in their life, which they find difficult to overcome. These experiences and problems prevent the person moving forward in their life. Counselling helps the person face the effects of past experiences and seek ways to overcome them.

Clients usually find counselling a very liberating and empowering experience. That is not to say that they do not feel nervous or daunted when first approaching a counsellor, they do! However, the process and the feeling afterwards, are usually very positive and beneficial.

Counselling may take time to work, depending upon the nature and number of problems being presented by the client. Sometimes, a single or a few sessions are all that is needed. At other times, longer periods, possibly months or up to a couple of years may be needed. The counsellor is there throughout to assist the client in their development.

Good luck

you dont have to blurt it all out all at once.
do it gradually.

i hold back from saying some things until i feel more comfortable to talk about them at a later date.