I always tell my therapist everything and omit nothing. To me, there is no point in going to a therapist unless I am going to be completely forthright. It sort of defeats the purpose.

I'm sorry you are so scared hon. Maybe ease into things slowly?

Good luck!!

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Admit that you've been too nervous or scared or insecure to tell the full story in the past. Let her ask you questions. You could write it all down for her, or record it...but that creates the risk that someone else might find it before you give it to your therapist.

Therapists are NOT surprised to find out that a patient has not told them the whole story at first. Nor do they consider it lying when they find out that the real story is different from what was first presented. Therapy is about getting to the truth, and that is a process. The more trust is developed, the more truth comes out.

I know you can do this, and it WILL help you feel better.

your not a bad person if thats what your thinking. because it is scarey. but I bet your theripist already knows that you are holding back and its ok just let her know that your afraid to tell everything.

I don't lie or sugar coat, I just leave stuff out. I just don't trust anyone anymore. Thank my ex for that one. Even though I know the therapists wont judge me, they will throw me in a hospital against my will if I mention I am suicidal. So, I tell no one when I am. Now, I don't even go. I can't bring myself to tell them the whole story. I want the help, but if I get slammed into a hospital for 3days, I'll lose my job and everything else, along with my credit. yeah, that'll be the best for me and make me happy /sarcasm

i will try..thank guys
how do i tell her, just straight up and tell her i've been lying/ holding things back, sugar coating?

"how do i tell her, just straight up and tell her i've been lying/ holding things back, sugar coating?"

Sure ... why not? Not being completely forthcoming with a therapist is cheating yourself ... compromising the whole idea of seeing a therapist in the first place.

You are wasting time and money if you are not truthfull. I see you are only 16 are you worried that the T would speak to your parents about what you say? Maybe it is the wrong T if you dont feel safe enough to tell them things or are you game playing hoping for the T's attention?

WV is right. (again)

i know she wont tell my parents...im not looking to attention...i just feel ashamed and embarassed...i will start telling her things tho...i do tell her what happen just not the whole thing, and plus i didnt have thats much session to tell everything that happened

I got it!!!

i dnt necessarily have to tell her that ive been holding back...i could just continue and tell her the stuff i left out and tell her how i feel, how ashamed and embarrased i feel...is that good?

hun its ur thing ...just do what U want 2 DO....

here is a link 4 ya

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2v2-DSKx3Eg

enjoy...hay at last the f'; word ain't mentioned

oh shit I must B evolving...hahahahah....NOT

hmmm....Im afraid that didnt work for my therapist, spilled the beans and nearly gave him a heart attack...lol

You need to be in control of what you say, but, imo holding something back can be counter-productive,, learning to trust is part of recovery,,do it at your own rate,,I can remember holding back because I expected rejection,,showing and becoming vulnerable is part of becoming strong...if you know what I mean..good luck..be brave..xx

thx cosyrosy! i will try and be brave..the what i have to do to get this pass me