Its just the blatantness of the lie that got me, like you really think Im that stupid?

Hell she accepts a lot from me, so I accept it from her. Which is why I am whining here and not to her lol.

:D

Maybe finding out why they felt the need to lie to you in the first place would be a start

I think so much depends on the lie, the reasons, and the history between you two. In the end, only you can make the decision to continue with the friendship, or let it go.

Oh, Ill continue it, she aint getting rid of me that quickly.

Just might take a step back for a while hehe.

thanks for all the advice guys.
Best thing ever happened to me was when Chocmonster introduced the site to me.

/hugs for all!

Maybe a few xx :P

Everyone is different but I try my best to be honest and want the same out in return out of every relationship I have. I would find it difficult to retain the relationship, knowing I have been lied to.

I've had a lot of people lie to me. I think to maintain a friendship it depends on the lie, the reason behind the lie, how the lie affected you, the type of friendship and boundaries of the relationship. I think people cover up things they are ashamed of, they sometimes don't want to deal with another persons reaction/judgement, or they tell little white lies to spare someones feelings, or surprise someone. If someone is a compulsive liar and especially if they they're malicous, then I would try to avoid even being acquaintences with that person.

Is it really a true friendship if it's based on lies? My friends and I don't have any lies between and if that were to happen, it would seriously damage the trust and closeness we feel with each other. I don't think I could be friends with a perpetual liar.

Pepper Man and lessjess said it very well---that's a very wise and insightful way of approaching it, weighing the lie, and perhaps why they lied, and what this person means to you.
But be careful! Confirmed liars often repeat this behaviour, and the lies can become more and more damaging...also, they seldom change...and in my life, it's always led to damage on one side or the other. I personally cannot respect a liar---I think once a lie is told, the liar is capable of anything after that. Just from cold, hard experience, and having taken people back time and again, only to get lied to yet again. That's been my experience---hope you fare better---you seem like a kindly fellow!

hi gumper,
i either call them on the lie, or bring up old conversations that make the lie true; sorry u r going through this, have been there myself :(

Well, I try my best to be a kindly fellow.

It was just a little white lie....

I was just in a bad mood when I posted, which kind of shaded my opinions.

Thanks everyone!

Reply #12 is exactly right! Lonliness can make you accept things you normally wouldn't. Two of my "best" friends I found out are liars. I confronted them, and what happened? They both ditched me. One was talking about me behind my back, and the other was telling me about it. I confronted the one talking about me and the one decided to be angry with me too.

I took them back because besides one other friend, they are all I have here. I will never look at them the same again...not as best friends, but I do see them as being friends. Sometimes I wish I didn't. It's really hard once a friend lies to you...very hard to get over. You may never trust them again.

Do whatever you think is best.

hi gumper,
don't disregard your feelings, hun; if u were lied too, whether it be a white lie or a big lie, then u need to really look into and consider that person as a friend; i hope everything works out for u :)

You said it's a white lie..Was it done to spare your feelings? I don't know what the lie was and how close you are to the person who lied to you.

I have had very close friends who I know care about me and been dependable. My close friends, also have other friends that I am just acquaintences with and i'm not sure they really like me. I can understand and appreciate it when my friends want to spare my feelings by telling me a white lie if I am not invited to something, or when it comes to other peoples business. It's not like they lie to hurt me.