sorry gumper.. no answers but I know they write songs about it.. I love ya does that count?

Heh. Ya it does.

Doesn't stop the confusion though. I just wish either it or I would go away, that would stop it right?

Gumper I am so sorry but the sad fact is we cannot make others feel the same that we do for them. I dont know what to say but I am sorry ... You seem like a really lovable guy and any girl would be lucky to have your love

I see you saying two different things here. First, that you really like this other girl so you don't want to hurt this girl that likes you but that you're not as into.
Second, that it's scary having someone like you and that that makes you want to be alone.

Those are two very different situations. In a lot of ways, the more important question is the second one. Because if you're never comfortable with someone liking you, that is guaranteed to cause problems--not just with this girl, but with anyone--down the road.

As for this specific girl who likes you, do you like her at all? Is she just a friend to you or could you see her as being something more?

The lass that doesnt like me, yes I do like her a hell of a lot. Too much, it hurts at times cause I know she is never gonna like me that way.

I'm not really scared of being with the other girl...scared of ruining it by being an idiot and throwing it away for something I can never have.

I just want my mind to focus on one girl....

My mistake. I meant the girl that likes you. Could you see her as someone you would enjoy being in a relationship with or do you see her just as a friend?

Because if you could see her as someone you could enjoy being in a relationship with, then go for it. You can't pine over someone who doesn't want you forever. It won't do you, the girl you're dreaming of, or the the girl you like any good

sweetie seems we always want what we can't have. I bet if you had this girl you liked alot it would not be what you thought. The pot of gold could be right under your nose and you can't seem to find it. Don't keep wishing for something you can't have take what you have in front of you. Good luck!

Yes, I can see me and the girl that actually likes me going somewhere.

As I say I just dont wanna ruin it by doing something stupid somewhere down the line.

thx for the support all!

You might have to make a decision soon so that you don't hurt the girl that really likes you. Maybe by taking a break you can figure it all out. I wish you luck.

guess what? gonna say something u may not...like too much.
but i'm an OLD G and i know from whence i speakith. rofl (shuddup, y'all lol)

you're what? 25? u are...for the MOST part..in love with and obsessed with the girl..BECAUSE she doesn't like u "that" way. human nature to want what we think we can't have. now, u can realise this..mull it over...see the validity in it...or dismiss it. your choice. but it IS what the problem is all about. trust me...and since i'm SUCH an ENEMY of wasting GOOD time for NAUGHT, i suggest u consider the former.

oh...and my stock advice tonight is:

GO FISHING!!!! life is SHORT!! YOU are young! LIVE LIVE LIVE!!!!

Thx :P

I feel old before my time alot though.

Im trying to get her outta my head (the one I want but cant have) its hard though.

Im going to make a go for it with the other girl..who I also like. We shall see how it goes.

I have the opposite problem. People take things too lightly and treat them as if they never even happened or it was too trivial ( or I was) to remember. Big hugs. Mishka.

i think you need to be honest with yourself, i know what i am about to say is easier said than done, but mabye you should stop seeing this girl because it is really not fair on her either. she deserves someone that loves her back the way she love you.
it would be the decent thing to do. she may not see this at first but, do you want to live your life wondering "what if" and living a lie?
it is so important that you do what will make you happy because in the long run it will make the ppl who surround you happy also. not to mention you derserve it anyway. everyone does. and you cant blame yourself for not loving someone, its just a natural feeling.
HUGS AND SQUISHES!!!!
i really hope you make the decision that is good for you.
xox
~P~A~

Sometimes when we know we can not get exactly what we want we want it more.

If the Lady you want does not agree or want a relationship then you have to let it go or you will be in limbo for the rest of your life.

I am not suggesting you settle for second best but I suspect that anyone you meet will be second best for you it is like I can not get what I want so nothing else will do.

Ladies are all unique and have qualities that vary from individual to individual try and settle for some one that wants you if they do not want you if we force solutions it will be destined for disaster.

Do we continue to get involved in relationships with people who emotionally reject us?

Do we let ourselves be used as a doormat for others in the hope that they will love us and approve of us? Or do we surround ourselves with relationships who encourage us tell us we are worth while, special and remind of us of our beauty, never criticizes us and be there when we need them?

Or do we surround ourselves unconsciously with relationships with people that we feel comfortable and familiar with? When we are troubled and confused, we are attracted to troubled, disturbed, confused personalities.

Relationships are complicated because people are complicated. We each have our own ideas, values and hopes and they cant always be the same as the ones we love.

Whether we accept or turn down a request, agree or disagree with someones point of view, we can still treat the other person with respect and curtsey. I can say, No gently and lovingly as we can say,Yes

We used to think living meant surviving from Crisis to Crisis we will continues this as adults because it was the only way we knew. When we do not know how to respond to a situation to day why not try responding with kindness and that is what we should receive back.

The company we keep rubs of on us and we on them. We influence each others thoughts and behaviours through a cycle of interactions. breaking our attraction to unhealthy relationships begins with our own self-acceptance and self-love. We break the cycle by choosing people that have the same personalities
Like self-acceptance, self-love and confidence remember it rubs of both ways.

We need to avoid those that put us down and treats us with no respect, no love and that attempts to keep us down and detract from our personal healing, and we keep the company of affirming people that will nurture and encourage us to be our best and see we have a true value and who helps us grow and fulfill or potential and dreams.

We find ourselves surrounded by people who love and care for themselves and who mirror our own inner beauty and self worth we are more likely to mirror the same.

Again, thx for the advice all.

Head and Heart still disagree though.