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Feeling lost....

Cassandrax3
Cassandrax3
So it's been 8 months since i lost my dad. I talk to like 3 people and i feel like NOTHING is helping me. At all. I feel more depressed, i dont want to do anything and i dont want to go to school(although its my last year) but i HAVE to, so sometimes i'll just go to do it but it makes me feel even worse. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel stuck and like this will never pass. I dont want to kill myself(and i WONT) but you know, it would make life easier. I just need someones help or something? I dont know. Nothing seems to be helping. Not even the Zoloft i take. I want to talk to someone who can relate so i know im not alone. Anyone?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm about nine months in to losing my mom, and I think i'm still in the numb denial phase. So yeah, you're definitely not alone in feeling like you're not handling grief too well.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sorry for your loss. I was pretty much in the same boat the last few years. I was surprised how helpful grief counselling was even after 2 sessions. We get so caught up in the pain of their leaving sometimes it blocks some of our memories. It does get more complicated if there are some unresolved issues but counselling does help.
deleted_user
deleted_user
who supplies grief counseling? Is there a speciality in that. I have a very sick Mom and its very hard to see her ... well you know.
lightwarrior
lightwarrior
Hello Cassandra
Im sorry about your loss
I dont know what it means to lose a father but Ive lost some close relatives of mine in the past years , I know its painful but you should try not to let it become suffer , seems like it already became
but you can fight back and be able to overcome your depression

I know you may have heard all the nice/comforting and encouraging things since you lost him but perhaps you never felt they helped you because you didnt allow them to become reasons for you to search for all you need

medication is not the solution , itll only drag the problem on and on , you need to first work with yourself in order to know what really has been growing inside you and how you can get rid of them , losing your dad influenced you to be where you are now but its not the whole source

if youd be willing to take a look at a good source : http://www.journeytoyourendless.blogspot.com

hope it will help you actually see that you can overcome your depression , not by caring less about your fathers death but by being wise enough to care without suffer and to go on with your life towards a better future

take care
I wish you recover soon
noodlebg
noodlebg
I am so sorry for the heartache you are going through, it is so very hard to cope with the loss of a loved one. I still grieve the death
of my own dad and it was many, many years ago.

Your medication can only do so much,,IMO only, talking with others that know what it's like is very important as well.

If you haven't already, may I gently suggest contacting your local
Hospice? They would be listed in your local phone book or you can find them online.
DS also has a bereavement group if you didn't know about them..
here's the link for them:

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Bereavement/support-group

There's no "right or wrong" way to deal with this kind of pain and there's no "timeframe" for how long it takes to come to terms with it.
Each of us copes in our own way and in our own time but we don't have to go it alone.

I hope you will look into these possible resources to find others who will genuinely understand and help you.

You are not alone

(((((((((very gentle hugs)))))))))))