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I am nevv here so i hope i posted in the right spot.
I am 24 years old seperated from my spouse because of domestic violence issues for over a year novv. I have tried to cope vvith everything and have been doing okay untill recently. I have a restraining order against my X but he finds vvays to vviggle back into my life.
VVhen vve seprated I told myself not to date for a year because I vvanted to heal. But novv that it has been past a year this guy started talking to me and vvanted to take me out. I vvasnt super excited not opposed to it. I thought it vvas odd and it comes to find out a covvorker vvho is friends vvith my X and My X had this guy ask me out as a joke to hurt me and spy on me.
I do not care so much about the guy not liking me just all the hurtful things. I can't seem to get him out of my life and I am constanly being bullied by his family or friends that come into my vvork or vvork vvith me and I really am feeling like hurting myself but at the same time I am really afraid of dieing but at the same time i feel i am getting closer and I don't knovv vvhat to do because I couldnt handle my family knooving that I am suffering so bad. I feel like if they knovv I vvant to commit suicide that I vvil have let them dovvn.
I just vvant h im to leave me alone and be able to move on vvith my life. For people to leave me alone.
I don't feel like anyone can accept me for vvho I am.
I am 24 years old seperated from my spouse because of domestic violence issues for over a year novv. I have tried to cope vvith everything and have been doing okay untill recently. I have a restraining order against my X but he finds vvays to vviggle back into my life.
VVhen vve seprated I told myself not to date for a year because I vvanted to heal. But novv that it has been past a year this guy started talking to me and vvanted to take me out. I vvasnt super excited not opposed to it. I thought it vvas odd and it comes to find out a covvorker vvho is friends vvith my X and My X had this guy ask me out as a joke to hurt me and spy on me.
I do not care so much about the guy not liking me just all the hurtful things. I can't seem to get him out of my life and I am constanly being bullied by his family or friends that come into my vvork or vvork vvith me and I really am feeling like hurting myself but at the same time I am really afraid of dieing but at the same time i feel i am getting closer and I don't knovv vvhat to do because I couldnt handle my family knooving that I am suffering so bad. I feel like if they knovv I vvant to commit suicide that I vvil have let them dovvn.
I just vvant h im to leave me alone and be able to move on vvith my life. For people to leave me alone.
I don't feel like anyone can accept me for vvho I am.
You're not a failure for asking for help
A good way to deal with this is to find people outside of your normal circle of friends, if you can. Get on with your life and let him play his silly games, make sure you don't show that they bother you.
Have no contact with him at all, not on the internet or anywhere.
If his friends are stupid enough to play along with his games, ignore them.
They will soon get bored if you don't show any response.
He might be a different matter, if he still pursues you in any way, call the police.
You don't have to put up with this. Also make a note of the date and time of anything that he tries to meddle in your life. Write down what has happened and it can be shown to the police.
While he is upsetting you, he has the control. Take the control back by just ignoring him.
some people just cannot resist messing with others. Then the others have to be ever vigilant which in turn drives ya crazy as ya always have to out think..... shit .... it's a never ending game of chess with no pieces....nuff ta drive ya crazy ain't it?
And, yes you should be concerned about the 'new' guy. MY girlfriend, well she told me what her used2b guy did with his so called friends. Got her all whiskeyed up and then she was accused of cheating....fucking games ppl play.....so sad.....
all I can say is this(now don't laugh) """If it walks like a duck, quaks like a duck""" it is a duck
What this means is TRUST what you think you know because you never lie to yourself. Sometimes we as a people gloss over/over look things that are major warning sings(shit I can never spell this word) singhs...oh I give up....anywhoo....
Trust what you think you know because it is you who knows it cuz every thing else is a lie...or could be.....
It makes it hard.
I really appretiate all the supprort and advice you guys are giving.
I can't leave my job because there so fevv ones avalible... so I'm going to have to vvait till they all come in together I think and knock them all out at once...
=3 vvalks like a duck talks like a duck is a duck. I really like that.