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CJAngel
CJAngel
I got a new counselor at school. I went last week for my first individual session with her. Without my girlfriend. My session was cut short. I got about 35 minutes. Ten of which she spent asking me, 'Are you sure your a lesbian?' and 'When did you decide to be a lesbian?' It was really upsetting. I don't want to see her again. But I don't know if I should go in and request a new counselor. Things are about to change drastically. My girlfriend is dropping all her classes and going home on Saturday. She doesn't know when she's coming back. We've lived together for four years. I don't know how I'm going to feel, waking up and not being able to see her everyday. I guess I'm just feeling a little lost and dazed. Confused as well. Ugh...
NYgirl212
NYgirl212
Hi CJ,
Counselors are not supposed to do that. You can ask for someone that is supportive of the LGBTQ community. If they don't have anyone there maybe there is place in your area where they are supportive and go by a sliding scale fee. I hope that helps.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Wow. I am so sorry that counselor did that. -Smdh- That's just wrong. They're definitely not suppose to do that. I'm so sorry to hear about your girlfriend leaving. Was there any reason she's dropping her classes? Is there any way she could still stay near you, possibly? That's pretty drastic to just up and leave. Have you two spoke about all of this and how it may effect your relationship? Hard... That's really hard. I'm sorry you're going through so much. ):
BlueYonderDreams
BlueYonderDreams
I would definitely request a new counselor. That is way out of line and her superiors should be informed.
mjones0608
mjones0608
A new counselor would definitely be a good idea. This other counselor you mentioned shouldn't be doing that. That's a bummer your girlfriend is leaving for home. You should definitely mention that to your new counselor when you find one. I am lucky enough to have found a wonderful counselor. She's great. She remembers things I tell her too which is wonderful.
gramybear
gramybear
Those questions that your counselor asked you, are going over the bounds of her position. I would, if it were me, would ask for a new counselor immediately. You need to be comfortable with who you talk to about personal things. Especially in a school setting. Teachers and professors are starting to take their jobs too far. Let us know how it all works out for you. Hugs GB
blackhawkdown
blackhawkdown
When did you decide??? Really??
Lets see I think Ive decided on bacon and eggs for breakfast and oh maybe being a lesbian too. (very sarcastic)
That's not a counselor that's a retarded moron! Time for a change.
gramybear
gramybear
Any luck yet on finding a new counselor? I hope you are able to do just that~ Hugs GB
CJAngel
CJAngel
I haven't found a new counselor yet. I talked with my old counselor (she got a promotion and can no longer see students in a client setting) and she said their other counselor is out for a few more weeks for health. She told me to come to her and she would let me know if the other woman was back and set up an appointment for me. I intend to inform her superiors as soon as I have the spare time.
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