I feel I must address the divorce issue, and apologize in advance if I offend you.

I believe that the biblical admonishment against divorce comes from 2 reasons. First as a way for the church to control people; secondly because back when/before the bible was written, women were property. A divorced man could still maintain a livable lifestyle, but a divorced woman was almost doomed to a life of poverty and being shunned by society.

Now things are different; divorced women still may not fare as well as divorced men, but they can lead a very productive life.

(No judgments from me here about divorce pro/con.)

A person who misleads their spouse about an issue that is very important to the other person has, in my opinion, entered into the marriage dishonestly.

For you to somehow "force, trick, or mislead" him into having a child is as bad as him misleading you into a marriage you thought would include children.

Please reconsider divorce if having children means that much to you. He is the one who has done the wrong here not you.

Again i apologize for any statements that may go against any person's faith.

Gentle hugs.

its not a religious belief just a personal one. yes, i feel he is in the wrong for saying that some day or when things are better etc and all the while knowing without a doubt that he never intended on having children. That being said, i need ways to cope with this and divorce for me personally is not one of them. I could do counseling i dont want to really go to medications unless necessary. Its hard to wean off them. I could use antianxiety which is more of an issue. I havent been much of a sleeper prior and its only amplified by this. Thanks for the advice though.
SadEyes

I believe divorce should be one of the final options & it is still eary days for that.

But what I do advice is possibly to go through Marriage Counselling. That way you can bring up the issue in a safe environment with him & he can't manipulate or weasel his way out of it.

It's worth a shot - The counsellor may suggest it also (my counsellor has suggested it for much more trivial & unimportant things!)

& finally just to say that drink isn't the answer... Otherwise you may have another issue to deal with :(

Well I would be upset by this too....I am not sure what I would do really but to stay I guess means you must accept you won't being have a kids with him. NOW some men say they don't want kids and once they have one they love and adore them so have you guys even discussed further maybe just having one? My kids dad never wanted kids but I got pregnant by accident with the first and he is a wonderful father. But I do kind of agree if one doesn't have kids its not fair to the child and my dad never wanted kids and boy he wasnt a great dad not really the worse just not loving and that I would not wish for any child! Well wishing you well.