DS and this group is for you. We all care about each other . and you are not alone here.

Be calm, and and at peace. Place yourself in a good frame of mind ... happiness is reachable .... so reach for it.

Tell us whats on your mind.

me and my boyfriend had a massive argument about him going out tonight with his mates when he said he'd stay in with me. i get paranoid when he goes out, its not that i dont trust him, i just dont trust everyone else. it ended up in a massive argument, i went out and when i came home he'd gone to the pub anyway.

Im stressed with work as well. i just feel like nothing is going right for me and im completely fed up.

I'm sorry you're going through this, it's so hard when several things seem to go wrong at once. Are you usually happy in the relationship with your boyfriend, is this something typical for him to do? With work is it an issue with not liking the work your in, your boss, or something else? ((hugs)) I'm glad you're here!

Well. I know all too well about fighting. What can I say?

We are stuborn guys. I think it was good that he went, to blow off steam. If he hasnt given a reason for you to not trust him then let him hang out with his friends. The second that he gives you a reason not not trust him, then have that arguement.

You dont want to be that person who naggs do you? Let him know you trust him completly. You can trust him completley right?

Same with you and your friends. He should do the same. Love is about trust. Dont smother him, but dont let him have free reign.

Show him you trust him, but letting him have some guy time. We are guys, we need that break!

we're usually happy yeah, we argue sometimes about stupid little things but mainly the big arguments come when he wants to go out with his friends. I dont really have any friends to go out with so i never get the chance to have a girls night out. i just dont like being alone.
I do trust him, he's never given me a reason not to trust him but it just worries me when he's drunk that anything could happen. I dont want to be the one that nags no :( his mates already think i have him "under the thumb" and that pisses me off, and when we argue he uses that against me.
I dont know how i can stop myself from being this type of girlfriend
:(

Work is new, ive only been there for 2 shifts but i just dont feel included. Everyone seems to already know each other and they go off and do their seperate things and im sort of left standing there wondering what to do with myself. I sometimes work 12 hour days and standing around doing nothing makes the day go by so slow, i then go home and cry about it and dread having to go back. Everyth ing is so stressful at the moment i dont know how to handle it all.

I'm sorry hun, ((hugs)). With the bf, it sounds like if you get some girl friends you enjoy and had your own girls night it would help. I've been in that place where I've been with someone and not had girlfriends, and it was really hard. With work I know I get tons of anxiety when I get a new job. Those are some really long shifts too! It's hard too when people already have their friends and aren't welcoming. My guess is that the way they're treating you isn't about you, but about them try not to take it personally. And remember it's work, and you don't have to be there forever, you can always quit if you really hate it.

i wish i could have some girl mates but my best friend moved away and my old girl mates went to uni or did something else and we havent really stayed in contact. i dont know if i find it hard to make friends or just find it hard to keep them. Im quite a shy person sometimes.

With work ive only just started so i dont want to quit. id feel even more like a failure than i already do :( im not really good at anything!

sorry if im moaning :/

You need some girlfriends and go out and have girl time with them. Join a club or something. It just sound to me....and dont take it as me being mean or anthing....that you are being bit selfish. You want him all to yourself,and the thought of him having fun without you, makes you a bit insecure?

That what i get from it. Not putting you down at here.

As far as his friends go, they sound like assholes. The reason he brings it up is because it embaraces him when you act like that, and his friends give him shit.

I have friends just like that. You should let him say, "She dont have me under her thumb. Do you honey" infront of them.

You know when you get home it will be different, but for you to let him say that infront of you and his friends, it gives him more respect with them. I know it sounds stupid. It works. Or just let him say that you dont have him under your thumb even when your not around. Let him be a man.

Do his buddies have girl friends? If so then perhaps you can have your boy friend organize a "couples" night out. That way you can meet some of the girl friends; then when they have a boys night out you already have a group set for a girls night out!

An other thing you can do is take up a hobby of some sorts that will introduce you to other people.

Hope it works out for you.

i wish i had time for a hobby! if im not working 12 hour shifts then im at home tired and stressed out.

I probably am a bit selfish but i bet he would feel the same if he didnt have any friends and i wanted to go out with my mates all the time.

why does everything have to be so difficult!

You're not moaning at all, post all you need to, that's what DS is for! I agree with the others that suggested getting a hobby of some sort. Or could you take some college classes in your area? Something just to get you out and give you the chance to meet people your age. Try not to put yourself down, you say that you're "not really good at anything", I'm sure that's not true! Everyone is good at something. With your job, I guess what I was trying to say more is, try not to worry about it so much. Is it what you want to do for a career long term or is it just paying the bills for now?

Sorry, I didn't see your post before i posted again, looks like a hobby isn't a good idea......

12 hour shifts is probably a big part of why you're so stressed out. Is this the long term plan for the job, for you to have to do these long shifts or is it just while you're in training or something?

the job just pays the bills for now. me and my boyfriend want to move into our own place as we currently live with his parents :( it doesnt help when we argue because its always awkward for me.
I have to work 42 hours a week, so its three 12 hour shifts and one 6 hour shift a week, if its too much i'll probably change it but just the thought of work stresses me out.
I rang in sick today for tomorrow because ive just been so unhappy these past few days and the argument with my boyfriend was just the cherry on top. It's 10:30pm in the UK and i dont want to go to bed because im worried he wont come home :(

I imagine that is awkward arguing there. I hope you can try to get some sleep tonight, lack of sleep will just make everything more difficult. Hang in there ok?