it has nothing at all to do with you... but its not fair that he treat you this way, he has no respect for you and it shows. As soon as you back off him.. and talk less.. and ask for sex less.. start taking care of you, and less about him.. you will see a change! He is this way because you make a fuss over him.. give it a try. :)

CAn I really though? My exs are as follows, a cheater, a jailbird, a father, a father, married, and a very very abusive drunk...

The others beat on me, but .... thats back when I thought it normal...


Can I really do better? OR is this just the life that God, has set forth?

GO FOR A WOMAN LOL

Oh yes you can do better hun. You had a unfortunate streak of bad men but it do not mean that you cant do better.

Instead of making a fuss over a man, wait for one who will make a fuss over you :) They are out there.

HA! Though I may be bisexual, I do not see myself with JUST a woman. For one, I lose patience quickly with them. They drive me nuts from time to time, just being themselves, so that wouldn't work, but interesting suggestion.

AS far as the men goes... I wish I could find one then. BEcause the guys around here are real winners... -dripping with sarcasm- either I'm too fat for their liking, or they're too caught up in themselves to notice a woman, and those who arent... are gay, or married already.... soooooo Im SOL (shit outta luck)

I can tell you this, but I don't learn it well in my own world. It is all about control. A controlling man will go to any lengths to totally dominate u. He will even forsake what he wants or his needs in order to keep you in your place. MY man is the same way. I went through the same things last night. I end up feeling like a failure as a woman and he gets a high telling me I am insecure. I know the right thing is to leave, but I too hate being alone. My past men were losers. It is not that God gives them to us,lol. We are so compassionate we overlook faults and love the entire person. Then we get screwed...literally.

.......or not so literally.... When we're good we're very very good, but when we're bad.. I wanna kill him.

-sigh- I know that part of his reluctance is because I literally AM addicted to sex, and intimacy. I am. And I dont ask for it every day, or every other day, Once a WEEK!!! too much???

Any other ideas?

aaaaaaaaaaaaand back to rage