Depression - Teen Support Group
Teen depression is marked by persistent sadness, discouragement, loss of self-worth, and loss of interest in usual activities. Depression can be a temporary response to many situations and stresses. Teens may be more susceptible to depression due to the normal maturation process, the stress associated with it, and conflicts with parents as they become more independent.
I think I'm falling into a mild depression. I don't know. I don't want to be depressed, it's actually been a fear of mine.
I have friends, and they make me laugh, and I feel better, although there's still a dullness inside of me and I don't want to bother.
I've been trying to sort out my sexual orientation. It's been hard. For years and years I identified as straight, although I knew I didn't care about gender. I came out as bi to two friends of mine, and they were supportive, and happy, and totally OK with it. However, I've been researching all the orientations. I'm curious as to what they are. I know very well my thoughts on love have changed since I was a kid, I used to want the marriage, kids and happy ever after. Now, intimacy, relationships, I'm fine imagining it and want aspects of it, but I was in a relationship with a close friend of mine and I couldn't hack it. I still like him, although I know we wouldn't work out, because he's romantic and affectionate and I hate it. I started to wonder about asexuality, dismissed it, and stumbled on to demisexuality. I'm so stressed on the idea of what I am, and I hate having to chose and fit in to a certain category, but the idea of letting it go feels impossible.
The boy I mentioned earlier, the one I still like, he's got a crush on someone else now. A mutual friend of ours. I'm jealous, yes, and I feel a mix of emptiness and unhappiness inside. He's crushing, and I feel crushed.
Sometimes I feel good, happy, I used to wonder about bipolarity but - ugh. I just want to fall asleep and wake up in a couple of months when it's all sorted and easier.
I have friends, and they make me laugh, and I feel better, although there's still a dullness inside of me and I don't want to bother.
I've been trying to sort out my sexual orientation. It's been hard. For years and years I identified as straight, although I knew I didn't care about gender. I came out as bi to two friends of mine, and they were supportive, and happy, and totally OK with it. However, I've been researching all the orientations. I'm curious as to what they are. I know very well my thoughts on love have changed since I was a kid, I used to want the marriage, kids and happy ever after. Now, intimacy, relationships, I'm fine imagining it and want aspects of it, but I was in a relationship with a close friend of mine and I couldn't hack it. I still like him, although I know we wouldn't work out, because he's romantic and affectionate and I hate it. I started to wonder about asexuality, dismissed it, and stumbled on to demisexuality. I'm so stressed on the idea of what I am, and I hate having to chose and fit in to a certain category, but the idea of letting it go feels impossible.
The boy I mentioned earlier, the one I still like, he's got a crush on someone else now. A mutual friend of ours. I'm jealous, yes, and I feel a mix of emptiness and unhappiness inside. He's crushing, and I feel crushed.
Sometimes I feel good, happy, I used to wonder about bipolarity but - ugh. I just want to fall asleep and wake up in a couple of months when it's all sorted and easier.
I'm not sure if my answer will help you somehow but I was at the same situation as you a year ago.
I hate to be depressed but sometimes it happens, not really too often... for last years it's once a half a year. Well, no matter how often but it still too exhausting, you know it. But I come through it, I'm looking for reasons... and you already found yours.
Question of sexual orientation had been bothering my mind for two years. Yes it's long enough may be :) And I came out as bi too. I shared it with my best friends. It was a moment that I was preparing myself for a long time, considering a lot, thinking, doubting. And they just said: Hey, what were you worried about? What all this murmuring for? Its okay, its not a problem. You can be whatever you want, you know (That was so adorable by the way!) So they made me feel more certain. But it didnt end here. These thoughts came back. I didnt try to talk about it, I knew adults would say for the reason: Its just a period you should come through. It will pass. To make a new healthy family you need to have a husband. Its right and naturally. I can agree, its a natural way but I still think that gender is not a thing which can be a barrier to love. So how did I solve this problem?
I just set an ultimatum. I dont bother myself with thoughts about sexual orientation anymore. But if I love a girl (not just like or wanna to try but love. True and clear), itll be okay. Im not insane then. I will not doubt a lot. If it doesnt happen, itll be okay too. I feel certain for now. I dont need to identify myself. Its just words and confines. I dont need them. I have myself as I am. I love myself as I am. Nothing gonna change. Im a human and its only thing that matters. Maybe it sounds like a bisexualism I dont know. But I feel another :)
Maybe you just need a time. Youre young. Everything is ahead. You dont have to hang on a label immediately. You have a plenty of time just to be free :)
As for problem with a guy I have something like that (gees, I look at you like at mirror). I like one guy. Like too much. But he already has a girlfriend and they look so adorable together I have nothing to do. It hurts. But maybe you have something to do. Are you sure hes got a crush on another girl? For certain? And what's your relationship with him? Are you friends or not?
Cheer up, my dear. There is nothing you cant come through :)
And sorry for my mistakes. Im not really good in English :)
We're friends, pretty close, and it's really painful that he's moved on (we did try and date, but it lasted for about a week and a half, so I try to remind myself that we are different people in a relationship, although I keep going back to the whole 'opposites attract' thing because it's harder to be happy if we aren't talking) while I haven't.
Your English is pretty good, actually. :)
Really difficult situation, because I feel the same and I know how easy just to say "it's okay, move on" but how hard to make myself move on.
What I know for certain... everything will be okay. We can make it:) No way for bad ending! It'll be fine)
And now no matter how painful is it, we are not alone. You have reliable friends, I have reliable friends. And we have each other.
What I'm trying to do and what I suggest you to do is not to look behind anymore. We really should move on. Move from words to action.
It's hard to leave it behind, I know, but we have hope our future will be freaking great! Sounds like a reason to become more happy :) Everything is ahead. Let's go and make our great future happens right now)
Is that sounds too positive? Maybe. Oh, just to imagine the problems of the whole world and our problem seems so little to me... But it's hard! I know what to do (what we should do), but I'm not sure about the way to do it. It is just like having a heavy sick. While you are sick you feel very bad and exhausted, but you need to do something to get well. And you need a time to get well. But the process is extremely hard...
Anyway I still think we can make it:)
Aw, thanks! I'm studying a lot to improve it :)