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What to do when u feel HELPLESS & Depressed?

SAMPAGUITA
SAMPAGUITA
hi everyone.im not that lonely right now. Maybe its because my mind refuses to think about my problems. I'm 25 years old, and still I never had a job because of too much anxiety and depression. My depression caused me to have a slow kind of thinking and having a difficult time on concentrating. I'm the type of person who doesn't give up easily. But now it seems like I want to give up because i think thats the right decision.

I graduated 3 years ago, and im a nurse already. I went into training in a hospital but I chickened out. I cant perform the tasks because of difficulty concentrating. And then after that i took a long vacation, On those days of my vacation, i was thinking maybe I'm not yet ready. So a year passed, and then i went on in a training again. (just 2 weeks ago i think). I was hoping that this time it will be different. But i was wrong. I still suffer from too much confusion.

I haven't seen my pdoc but it was a year ago..(almost) when she told me that i have to switch careers, something less stressful. Something which i can handle. Im trying to consider putting up a small business. Like selling baked goodies. Or maybe teaching. ( I tried studying teaching but at the second day of class i got a huge panic atttack and then i suddenly stopped...so there, thats how it ended) ,

You know what from my experience on the hospital training feels like i got traumatized. I feel like i dont want a boss. I wanted to become my own boss. I just dont want people to notice that there's something wrong with me. Because I honestly am ashamed of my weak mind. My depressive personality. Sometimes I want to cry because no matter how hard i try, i always lose in the end.

I want to hate everything about myself. Im insecure with normal people. I just feel so stupid. A friend want to help me so I could be a nurse in Australia. Its a great opportunity but what can I do? I JUST CAN'T! because OF THIS STUPID ILLNESS!!


Im scared for my future. What if my parents are not around anymore.?

My self esteem is so low right now. I know what to do but it feels like my binge eating and depression are my best friends. My future is on hold. My life is on hold.


I just dont know what to do.


Please help.
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I would have to say dont make any decisions about your future until you are feeling better. A phychiatrist can evaluate you and see if medication is needed to help you. One day at a time. I am self employeed with my H and I can tell you the business has suffered with my H depression. The stress is incredible at times and he cannot deal with it. It may very well be the direction that is best for you but maybe starting right now may not be the best choice.

Have you been evaluated for adult ADD and or anxiety? So many things can contribute to your lack of concentration so dont give up until you find what works for you. Hugs~
BesideStillWaters
BesideStillWaters
Hi, I know what you mean about confusion. Mine felt more like performance anxiety. You have done so much already. Please ask for a consultation with your doctor on the concentration issue. You may have been misdiagnosed. You are not a failure. You hang in there and do not ever beat up on yourself. A nurse has an incrediable amount of responsibility. I agree on the boss thing but perhaps a small clinic would be more to your liking and not so overwhelming until your self confidence is up and then perhaps you may want to try the hospital setting again. Go easy on yourself, it will make you happier. We are our own worst critics.
I will be thinking of you.
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I feel for you. It could be performance anxiety. Are you a perfectionist? I know how to feels to fail and how much are best efforts produce no good results. Just be as good as you can be to yourself. Follow your inclinations. If there is something you want to do, do it. Don't worry if it doesn't become a career. Remember God loves you just as you are. Even when you fail. I have to remind myself many times of that as well. So easier said than done. Have you tried a supplement called Acai. It's a supplement I take along with my antidepressant. Sometimes my depression is so great that my antidepressant doesn't work. The Acai seems to be working for me.
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It's been so long since I've posted on anything here. Take anything for what it's worth. You are not alone. I have been in this stage many times in my life. Sometimes I wonder if it's because of other personal issues. This year alone I had to deal with the lost of a major friendship of 25 years! Since April, I have had to reconsider my ways of relating to others because of this loss & it affected my thinking to the point that I have had near breaks of psychosis....

DO you have a strong social support network? I know I have found myself in deep depressions because of a lack of one. Continue to seek help either through online support or outside resources & counseling.

I myself also agree with some of the things the other posters have said. Take everything that helps you get through this difficult time. And remember, you are not alone!
SAMPAGUITA
SAMPAGUITA
Thanks for replying at my post! What is performance anxiety? I dont know if i am misdiagnosed but hopefully this week il be going to the pdoc to clear it. Yeah, sometimes I feel like a failure. I cannot handle the job as a nurse, i studied hard for it, prayed hard about it. I get sooo frustrated because my friends--- all of them are nurses already. Almost all of them works in abroad, earning big amount of money. .. im telling myself, what if i dont get rich? Who will support my medications if ever?I want to buy a lot of things, shoes, clothes, bags, .... Things like that are crossing my mind. and that was my dream from the very start. but it seems God has a different plan in my life. Its hard for me to accept that. but either way ill be happy. Whatever God wants me to be. I guess. One of you suggested not to make any significant decision until i get better. Thanks for that great advice, it didn't cross my mind.

About having my own business, ( or being my own boss) next month im planning to learn how to bake. I feel happy just thinking about it I dont know why. I feel excited.To learn new things.


Thanks for the suggestions, one of you suggested if i could work on a small clinic. My mom said i should take the board exam of US maybe i could work in a small clinic someday.

I am not yet evaluated for Adult ADD. But im sure i am anxious. I will ask my pdoc about Adult ADD.


My concentration right now is not so good. Esp if im exposed in a hospital or outside the house. I feel traumatized because i dont want people to notice that i have a poor concentration. People in the previous hospital where i volunteered noticed. I feel kinda bad about it.

One of you asked if I'm a perfectionist sometimes I am.
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deleted_user
Hi My name is Chrissy I am going to send something to you that I wrote this morning and hopefully it will help you and encourage you!! I also can relate to you I often feel just like you. I feel stupid and have a hard time concentrating and often feel like my brain is set on stupid...I have Attention Deficit Disorder and I had like 3 jobs when I was around 19 or so one was working at McDonald's I was told by my supervisor there that I was just to slow..I worked at a drug store and messed up on money calculating my math is super bad I lost both of those jobs and just recently I was let go from my current job because I was told they wanted someone more self suffient. I had a job prior to that and was let go due to the state budget cuts it was the longest job I ever had over two years. My point is you can do anything you put your mind to. I know living with depression is hard believe me I have dealt with it my whole life. We tend to focus on the negative it is the way our brain is programmed but we need to learn to retrain our thought processes and it can be done think about it we learned to think negatively we did not come into the world being negative we can learn to focus on the postive it is a challenging journey but know that you are not alone. You have alot of uncertainty and you are still young it is normal to question our life it is human nature but you sound like a wonderful person and if I can help please reach out I am there for you Hugs my friend...
SAMPAGUITA
SAMPAGUITA
Thanks for the reply at my post. And thanks for what you wrote, it beautiful and inspiring. Right now im thinking of nothing. I dont want to tire my mind of negative thoughts. Right now im trying to "explore".. Im planning to learn how to bake, and I just found out about this workshop on how to put on make up and skin care. Im planning to attend those workshops, (baking and the make up workshop). Sometimes although, i'm feeling negative because what if i cannot concentrate, the effort will be useless. But no, i WANT TO GO! I want to at least, TRY..

How about you, what are you doing this days? how are you? Am also having a food addiction, Im almost 200 pounds right now. I know it sucks, but i try not to think about it.

xoxo

grace
SAMPAGUITA
SAMPAGUITA
About "restarting" the pessimistic mind, i know what you mean. Thanks for reminding me that we can change our mindset and we can overcome our struggles, sometimes i wasn't aware of that thought anymore. I feel like my life is programmed already. That no matter what i do, i will end up failing. Its just sooo hard to retrain the mind. Dont worry im going to try my best to retrain my mind. There's actually a book called Feeling Good by Dr. Burns, i think its a good book. You might wanna check it out because it helps. The first few chapters discusses about the distorted mind. Really interesting.
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Sympathies and hugs-I can relate.
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