Depression Supporters Support Group
This community is dedicated to spouses, children, relatives, co-workers and others who are actively supporting someone suffering from depression or other serious mental illness. Depression can bring about intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive, which can have a grave impact on the ability of others trying to help.
Hello....Does this depression our loved one has raise hell on the love aspect? Or what.....It's one thing to be a loving supportive person but when they (almost like a flash) disappear in front of your eyes and turn into an ugly stranger, where does your love for them go???? I've really tried to hang on but at what cost and at what point to you decide..enough...I just don't know...the look in their eyes like they are not in there....the not answering or responding...I don't think any medication works well enough at this point...I find myself just wishing he'd get a call to go somewhere....but then he doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything...a wonderful man he was....wonderful ......I'm having dinner alone tonight...he's sleeping, most of the day, and it's 5:40 EST and I'm just going to turn off the light and oh well...I could go out...lots of friends and I'm not married...I have taken the gun and hidden it....sick of the threats....where did this wonderful, handsome, funny, caring, love of my life go....wish I still smoked....thanks for listening
Tonight he is furious! He won't even talk to me. I have to leave soon (10 min) It is one of those times I don't want to leave for fear of his mental state when I return. But I can't skip again, I have already used my absences.
If I didn't have to go I'd probably do the dishes and sit here chatting with all of you tonight. It's good I have things going on. I know this. It's hard because I want to cry so badly... Obviously I can't right now.
Man do I love him! He is the love of my life this I know. I honestly want no one else ever... Only him. He is so angry! I can't handle this. I know what you're saying... You're not alone. Thank heavens! It has helped so much to learn how much company I really am in! :)
I could, you know. I support myself, my kids & my husband financially. I have a good support network of family & friends. I basically take care of the kids alone. & can get help for when I work at night.I could get divorced, it's not that hard. I could find someone who doesn't have as many issues, someone who would treat me with kindness and respect. I could get remarried again.
See I've put in many many hours daydreaming about how great it would be.
But the reality is: I love him with all my heart & can't picture my life without him in it. I don't want to. It scares me to think that this disease could ever change that, but I never used to imagine my life without him.
I'm so glad I'm not the only one...
I could do this too... I have supported both of us for over 3 years. If I didnt have to feed us both it would cut down my grocery bill immensely. I could go down to 1 car an 1 driver on insurance (it's basically that way anyway but I can't not insure him) I could go down to 1 cell phone. It would be easy financially.
It would be horrendous emotionally... I love this man. I wish he would just love himself and help himself. I can't do everything... I just can't. It is literally impossible to make someone happy and make someone's dreams come true. That person must have buy in and be apart of it.
He wants to move so badly I've even offered that if that's what he wants I will move him... If he would prefer to move right now and bit be with me I will help him get there. He doesn't want that- thank goodness :). I want to be with him. But he won't help make any of our dreams come true... He won't get up and do something productive. If he were happy I wouldn't even care if he were acting like this but he's angry about the stuff that he is choosing not to do! It is such a mess... Hmmmm.... Please let him be helped