Depression Supporters Support Group
This community is dedicated to spouses, children, relatives, co-workers and others who are actively supporting someone suffering from depression or other serious mental illness. Depression can bring about intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive, which can have a grave impact on the ability of others trying to help.
It's amazing the difference I see in my own strength lately. Its as though suddenly I have finally learned that I am alone in this world. Not alone alone- there's billions of people and I have many friends, acquaintances, family members, all of you :)
But... I have literally no one who I can count on. Of course I can count on him typically. But the moment he enters that dark place he is gone and I can no longer count on him. And LITERALLY thats it- i dont have someone else to count on to help me in tough spots. My family has made this very apparent over the past 6 months. This has come to my realization over the past few months... My aloneness. And you know what? Turns out its good. Yeah yeah of course I wish I could count on the family or that friends were like they were in high school- drop everything to talk about the drama that day. But as we get older friends are not like that and family depends on who fate puts us with. Well fate gave me myself. But like I say... It's been good to realize this! Having figured this out... I cannot begin to tell you the strength I have and the peace I feel.
When he is down... I'm fine. I stick around still- I want to ensure he knows I am here for him and I won't leave him... But I'm not crying in the other room anymore. I am productive and I can acknowledge that I did nothing to put him in that bad place. Honestly... I've been like this for well over a month! Yes I still cry and get sad and want to fix it all... But it no longer consumes me. Thank goodness! Just a little bit of hope and strength for us all to share :). Hugs to you all my friends!
But... I have literally no one who I can count on. Of course I can count on him typically. But the moment he enters that dark place he is gone and I can no longer count on him. And LITERALLY thats it- i dont have someone else to count on to help me in tough spots. My family has made this very apparent over the past 6 months. This has come to my realization over the past few months... My aloneness. And you know what? Turns out its good. Yeah yeah of course I wish I could count on the family or that friends were like they were in high school- drop everything to talk about the drama that day. But as we get older friends are not like that and family depends on who fate puts us with. Well fate gave me myself. But like I say... It's been good to realize this! Having figured this out... I cannot begin to tell you the strength I have and the peace I feel.
When he is down... I'm fine. I stick around still- I want to ensure he knows I am here for him and I won't leave him... But I'm not crying in the other room anymore. I am productive and I can acknowledge that I did nothing to put him in that bad place. Honestly... I've been like this for well over a month! Yes I still cry and get sad and want to fix it all... But it no longer consumes me. Thank goodness! Just a little bit of hope and strength for us all to share :). Hugs to you all my friends!
It's just I have learned that I must come first a long time ago- but only recently have I learned to apply it and seen the positive results of it! My own emotional strength is the greatest gift I've ever received! Stay strong :). We are here for you!