Depression Supporters Support Group
This community is dedicated to spouses, children, relatives, co-workers and others who are actively supporting someone suffering from depression or other serious mental illness. Depression can bring about intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive, which can have a grave impact on the ability of others trying to help.
So... my guy has been down for awhile now. It really triggered extra last month when my dad showed up and talked to him as I posted last month. Since then he's been blah. We went on vacation and he perked up only to have a fall back into every day life when we returned.
So his mood has been very low and very bad. I've been working so hard to get him up and happy.
My dad essentially said he wants nothing to do with him and he is cut out of the family essentially meaning I am too. I talk to my mom and reply to my dad's emails so nothing dramatic. But definitely to the point where there will be no gatherings of my dad and us.
However, my mom finds this foolish... she thinks he needs to get over it and come together as a family. Yesterday she came over and had lunch and watched a movie with my guy. Wonderful!!! They both had a great time! I talked to my mom last night and she sounded a little upset and said my dad wasn't too happy with her getting together with him. I was surprised and we talked a little but she said it would be fine. Today I get a text message from my dad:
"Please tell him I would appreciate it if he would not contact my wife or hang out with my wife in the future. It makes me very uncomfortable."
So this shocked me that it was that big of a deal! I was nervous but thought I must be thinking of this too much... it will blow over. I thought I should not tell him because of this terrible place he is in and I was nervous my dad might try to contact him so I blocked my dad's number from his cell phone so he can't contact him and upset him further.
I called my mom- she was crying. My dad told her she disgusted him and upset him and he couldn't look at her anymore. If she were to hang out with my guy again she could find herself a new husband on that day! They celebrate 33 years next month!
SO... my mom slept on the couch last night and today he told her to get out so she left. My parents have NEVER had this type of angry relationship or fury between them! This is just how upset my dad is about my guy! So my poor mom is texting me nonstop because I don't want to lose touch with her right now and she is driving and hiking and planning on sleeping in the car with the dogs tonight somewhere far away. My sister is no help right now. And my dad will not answer my phone calls.
All the meanwhile my guy is sitting her watching baseball eating a sandwich and getting better out of his mood. Really?! I can't tell him! I don't know how to handle this! I am SO lost!!!
So his mood has been very low and very bad. I've been working so hard to get him up and happy.
My dad essentially said he wants nothing to do with him and he is cut out of the family essentially meaning I am too. I talk to my mom and reply to my dad's emails so nothing dramatic. But definitely to the point where there will be no gatherings of my dad and us.
However, my mom finds this foolish... she thinks he needs to get over it and come together as a family. Yesterday she came over and had lunch and watched a movie with my guy. Wonderful!!! They both had a great time! I talked to my mom last night and she sounded a little upset and said my dad wasn't too happy with her getting together with him. I was surprised and we talked a little but she said it would be fine. Today I get a text message from my dad:
"Please tell him I would appreciate it if he would not contact my wife or hang out with my wife in the future. It makes me very uncomfortable."
So this shocked me that it was that big of a deal! I was nervous but thought I must be thinking of this too much... it will blow over. I thought I should not tell him because of this terrible place he is in and I was nervous my dad might try to contact him so I blocked my dad's number from his cell phone so he can't contact him and upset him further.
I called my mom- she was crying. My dad told her she disgusted him and upset him and he couldn't look at her anymore. If she were to hang out with my guy again she could find herself a new husband on that day! They celebrate 33 years next month!
SO... my mom slept on the couch last night and today he told her to get out so she left. My parents have NEVER had this type of angry relationship or fury between them! This is just how upset my dad is about my guy! So my poor mom is texting me nonstop because I don't want to lose touch with her right now and she is driving and hiking and planning on sleeping in the car with the dogs tonight somewhere far away. My sister is no help right now. And my dad will not answer my phone calls.
All the meanwhile my guy is sitting her watching baseball eating a sandwich and getting better out of his mood. Really?! I can't tell him! I don't know how to handle this! I am SO lost!!!
I feel better about it. And it does sound like my dad is having quite the control issues I agree!! Stopped working a year ago, retired. I believe that is affecting him poorly! He doesn't know what to do with himself.
I still have not had contact with him. He never replied to me and I never tried again. I do still debate sending him an email or text and saying keep your drama out of my life sir drama queen! Haha- okay it'd be nicer than that. But I'm just debating. I've had the draft sitting in my phone for a few days :)