Depression Supporters Support Group

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My Dad is chemically depressed and taking medication, but even with meds he still has relapses. He has been spending more and more time sleeping lately and shut up in his room (which is what he does when he is relapsing) When I asked him about it he gave me a really long and HARSH speech about how I am too demanding and need to take therapy more seriously (I have personality disorders, depression, and am Bulimic) I was just wondering if you guys could give me some insight about what he might be feeling having to put up with me? Because I am just not understanding him at all.
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Those diagnosed with chemical depression will often say a lot of things they might take back later -- this sounds like it could be one of them. As a supporter of -- as well as someone afflicted with -- depression, you can't blame yourself or anyone for anything. It keeps your focus outside of what is truly important, and requires you to spend endless amounts of energy in the what-ifs.

As for what he might be feeling, it's almost anyone's guess. As your father, you know he loves you, and could possibly just hate to see you going to therapy in general. He might blame himself for not being there for you enough, even if he was. He could feel a lot of things, most of which would be untrue to anyone but him.

Keep strong and don't let him push you away -- which could be something he's trying to do, if inadvertently.

Hope,
Cyrano