Meds for dementia are tricky and sometimes can lose effectiveness and need changing. I'm not sure what type of dementia he has, this could help us provide you some more ideas.

Are you saying the medication makes him lose it, or is he losing his medication? Sorry, just a bit confused. If the medication is agitating him more, I would definately seek another doctor's advice. A psychiatrist or neurologist (depending on type of illness) can be much better at advice and assistance with these types of meds.

Have you seen a geriatric psychiatrist ever or had a full geriatric evaluation completed?

As for finding a good doctor, you could find a good recomendation from your local council on aging or local Alzheimer's Association. They assist with all types of dementia.

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Is the nursing home set up to handle dementia patients? Do they have activities, music, support, exercise? I know my Dad does much better when he is active, eats well, is well hydrated, etc. Dehydration can cause all sorts of issues. Do you feel he's getting the care he needs at the NH he's at?

Some patients do better with family to help with meals and such, but this is not your job to be there all the time for this, they really should provide this support. But, I know my Dad will not eat much if I'm not there, so it's a balancing act.

I hope some of this helps, keep us informed ok? And remember, you're not alone, there are a lot of us working on these same things. Cathy

I agree with Cathy and I also answered on your other post. I definitely think a geriatric doctor (psychologist, psychiatrist) would be your best bet. No, I do not believe it is fair of them to ask you to do one meal. It is up to you when you can and cannot be there and you do not need them to guilt you or push you into it. You should be able to visit your
Dad on your terms and enjoy your visit doing what you want to do not what they want you to do. I understand that maybe they have some reasons for this that I am not aware of but I think it would be a great idea to get a representative from your local Alzheimer's Association to visit you and your Dad. My Mom has mild dementia and the help they have given me so far has been amazing. They can guide you as far as doctors I would think. Hugs, Kim

As always Cathy and Kim have such great information for you to consider in helping your Dad. I am in beginning stages of alzheimers or dementia whatever you feel comfortable in calling it. I can comment on what seems like the controlling fits your Dad is having to get what he things he wants. Believe me he forgets all about what it is he is upset about before it is even over with. When I am upset about something it is more because I am so confused about somthing that happened and I can not figure out how to deal with it then someone will push me for an answer that I can not even remember what it was that I wanted to know in the first place. Confusing yes it is, that is what I am trying to say, please do not take his outburst and what he is saying to much at heart because to him they are fleating and soon forgotten anyway. So if you can do what you can and listen to Cathy and Kim and please some how do not take to heart your Dad's outburst. Just try to keep in mind physically your Dad is no different than what he has been as far as his alzheimers dementia goes but his brain no longer functions like the Dad you have known forever used to work. He has no control over his outburst and he is more frustrated with them than anyone else is. Wish I could help more just letting you know what I go thru. God Bless Phil & Flops