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Dementia is the progressive decline in cognitive function due to damage or disease in the brain beyond what might be expected from normal aging. Particularly affected areas may be memory, attention, language and problem solving, although particularly in the later stages of the condition, affected persons may be disoriented in time, place and person (not knowing who they...

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My Dad

Kat51
Kat51
My dad passed away Saturday. He had numerous episodes of very low blood pressure and they never really found the cause. He was brought to ER because is was so low he was having difficulty breathing. Despite strong blood pressure meds and fluids, his blood pressure just kept dropping and they were unable to save him. I want to thank everyone here for their support during the short 9 months he lived after his diagnosis of Alzheimers.
martyE
martyE
My condolences to you and your family. My Dad died in '04 and it still seems like yesterday.
Kat51
Kat51
Thank you Marty. I'm sorry about your dad also.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My sympathy to you and your family. There's something disconnecting when the second parent passes away. You will really miss him and you may even think you hear him occasionally or think you glimpse him out the corner of your eye, yet, of course, he's not there. I recommend you find a local grief support group to help you through the first years worth of those "first holidays without him". Be patient with yourself and don't try to all of a sudden be "over it". We are not machines. We adjust slowly to grief and every once in a while we slip backward for a day or so.
Do some fun things out of the home from time to time to distract yourself a bit.
May God strengthen you, hug, hug
Kat51
Kat51
Thanks, Scamper. I took this week off work but am going back Monday to a pile of work on my desk so I will be keeping busy. It will be hard, as I remember the first Mother's Day, Christmas, etc. after my mother died. I will see if there's a group that I could join, even if it's an on line one. My granson would probably really benefit because he was so close to Dad and he took it very, very hard. He's 17 and it's hard to get them to go to counseling at that age, but maybe I could even contact the school conselor to see if he is willing to talk to her.
Thriver
Thriver
I am sorry for your loss. It does take time to realize it and work through all the conflicting feelings. Be kind to yourself and encourage your grandson to allow himself whatever he feels.
A book I found useful was "When Chlidren Grieve". It really is relevant for all ages.