So I finally figured out what made me so mad about this video.

Is life really supposed to be fabulous most of the time? That any time you cry or get angry for longer that five minutes, you have a disease? Like something must be wrong with your brain and you need a pill/treatment? I'm not saying we don't need help sometimes, but we don't need it because something about us is defective.

You know, Elizabeth Smart said something really poignant. She said, "It's like a beautiful vase that got broken. Maybe you didn't mean for it to get smashed, but it's still broken."

It's like the medical profession is blaming the vase for getting shattered. I think that's a load of crap. We spend a lot of time trying to figure out who and what we are. Where we fit in this world. When something traumatic happens, it's like we don't know how to integrate that into ourselves. This isn't just 5/10 percent of the population, this is everyone! No one is impervious to a severe psychological assault. No one!

How is it even possible to love someone, with all that you are, and not feel shattered if they die?

Peri I completely agree with you last sentence. About a year ago I lost my cat. She was only a year and half old and she had major health issues so I spent much of that time just taking care of her. Although she was just a cat I still feel the pain of losing her like it was yesterday...but I constantly feel bad for having these feelings because society tells me that a year to grieve over a pet is to long. It is just not something you get over, its something that you have to learn how to live with.

It's not possible. You can't be the same when your better half dies. You never will be.

all that you said on this subject is so well conceived and expressed. I just hope you see my reply, deeply hope you will return to this site. you speak of things that I long to discuss and feel strongly about in my own life, yet no listening ear for this sort of thinking. it makes my feeling more painful of the broken vase that I am.