I'm assuming that if your hubby is ill enough to be on remicade AND imuran he has fairly severe UC
You say he is a "picky eater" but is this because he gets symptoms after eating and is frightened of masking things worse? Does he get pain that means he can't eat much? Maybe he has found that most foods make his symptoms worse and avoids them for that reason.
Surely you've read other threads on this site about the many people who can't eat, suffer pain and feel totally hopeless?
I'm sure there are other partners who understand your frustration, but as a sufferer I can only assure you that "picky" isn't probably the word.
Fevers are a response to inflammation, so I guess his UC is NOT controlled. Vomiting can be a sign of obstruction (the bowel being blocked) and can be accompanied by severe pain and a "rigid" abdomen.
If this is not the case (blood tests like CRP, white cells and ESR would easily confirm) then I suggest he has a severe reaction to the drugs and needs to be reassessed.
Try to read some more threads and learn more about his condition as I'm afraid being the partner of someone with bowel disease can be very challenging and we need the people closest to us to support us when the rest of the world judges us.

I hope he has contacted his MD. If not I think he really needs to. For what its worth I would be pushing him to do so ASAP.

I agree with both of the above posts. Time to see the doctor! This could actually be a reaction to the Remicade, it can happen 3 weeks after an infusion.

I started off with a Dx of UC and now it is CD & UC. I like all kinds of food, not "picky" at all. But sometimes I just look at something and know that I can't eat it. I never know in advance if I will be able to eat it or not (if we are eating out, I often ask for a to go box when I order).

Please ask your hubby to call the Dr first thing Monday.

I had a friend with crohn's who ate nothing but shrimp and pineapple juice. She just couldn't tolerate anything else.

How long has your husband been on Imuran? They tried to put me on it a couple of years ago. After a couple of weeks, I started running a fever and vomiting every night after taking it. They took me off it and tried 6MP, which is a metabolite of Imuran, and I have been tolerating it very well. Immune suppressants can have nasty side effects and sometimes your body just can't tolerate it.

Food is not your friend when you have this. You may see if he is willing to try a can of ensure or a breakfast drink before taking medication. My husband got kinda pissy w/ me when I was really sick because I wasn't eating and lost 61 pounds and refused to go back to the hospital......etc. Patients is a hard thing but you have to calm down and support him or make suggesstions that can help. You getting upset causes more stress on him and in return can cause more hardship on him getting better quicker. Anytime I forced myself to eat it came right back up. When UC is severe your colon is forcing your body to take a food intake break because the colon is really sick.
If he has a fever I would get ahold of the GI and make sure he is on antibotics...he could have an infection in his colon which makes things worse (c-diff).
When I was really sick and compromised w/ my husband to drink propel/gatorade/pedilite,etc.
Imuran does cause you to have a yucky stomach so I take it before I go to bed.
Good Luck and I know being a caretaker is harder sometimes then the one that is sick. It is nice to see you on hear seeking advice and attempting to do the best for your husband. Hug

he has an appt with the GI clinic on sept 10th. I am going to ask his doc about the 6mp. i am also going to suggest to him to take his imuran at night. im not sure if this is because he has discontinued prednisone (per his doc) for about 2 weeks already. or that he refuses to give up jalapenos. i am also going to get him some ensure drinks because a lot of people keep recommding that. thanks everyone for your suggestions. :)

Hi Joeswifey - is your husband any better?
Did he take any of your suggestions? You're very good to find this forum to help support him - I'm sure he appreciates it, we're just not always good at showing it! :)
As for the jalapenos, it might not be as crazy as it seems. Chilis are VERY high in anti-inflammatories and when I was sick in the US I found all I could eat were pastrami,mustard and jalapeno sandwiches - go figure????
Different things work for different people, but when I'M really sick, I make a chicken broth from scratch (to avoid nasties) add chilli, turmeric (also VERY high in anti-inflammatories) ginger (good for settling the stomach) garlic (it tastes nice and I'm OK with it!!!!) a little splash of fish sauce (if he could tolerate) a little sugar (thai food needs this "sweet element" ) and some rice noodles and chicken (rice is easier to tolerate than normal egg noodles).
I posted this after your jalapeno comment as I wondered if it might appeal to him more than some "diet" foods?
When I'm really sick (other uses may find this hard to believe!!) it's the ONLY thing I can manage and it actually makes me feel BETTER.
When people say they can't tolerate spicy food, I think it may often be the ghee or other elements of the food that is the problem. Interestingly countries like India where they use a lot of spice have lower instances of crohn's and only developed it when they started eating junky western food. (See also Japan and China)

When I was really sick and not eating I craved fresh pineapple and watermelon and I was able to keep that down. I think everyone has a little difference in what works for them. Jalepenos? OMG If I ate them now I would not be out of the bathroom and I am not in a flare. No not no jalepenos here!