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article by Lisa Copen
As I sit here working on this article my 4-year-old son hangs out with me with a little cold and fever. I keep telling him he needs some medicine but all he has said since he got out of bed is Im better now. Im all better. How much does our attitude effect how well we deal with our illness and our level of happiness?
Everyone handles the troubles in their lives in assortment of ways. While some people put on a happy face and intentionally decide they will use their illness as an opportunity, others will drive home from the physicians office anxious about how much longer they will be able to drive because of the seriousness of the pain. Theyll lie down on the couch and not leave the house for years. Why do some people thrive even though they have a chronic illness while others simply go into survival mode, even using the illness as an excuse for everything that goes wrong in their life?
So what do happy chronically ill people have in common?
Here are a few things Ive discovered:
1] They maintain hope. Weve found through research that people who have hope actually recover from surgery faster than those who have less hope. Hope is fundamental and a basic step in finding contentment despite our situation. The 2006 theme of National Invisible Chronic Illness Awareness Week was My illness is invisible but my hope shines through. This is an attitude we should all have.
2] They carry on and keep going no matter what with a persevering attitude. Living with constant chronic pain is very tiring! Emotionally, physically, and spiritually, chronic pain can quickly deplete our strength and spirit. Our good health is one of the main things our society counts on to help us reach our dreams, even referring to the saying, At least you have your health! But when you live with unending chronic pain and still are able to find happiness, part of the reason is becausethough you adapt our dreamsyou still have them. At times, these new purposes can be more exhausting than the original ones, but passion can produce a lot of adrenaline.
3] They are good advocates of their own health. Paul J. Donoghue and Mary E. Siegel, authors of Sick and Tired of Feeling Sick and Tired, write Getting this help in a consistently satisfying manner is as essential as it is challenging. You will need perseverance, courage and skill. You will need to understand your needs and be committed to getting them (p. 160). People who take part in the decision making process on the topic of their care and treatment, and who actively hunt for out doctors who will partner with them, are more happy than those who feel out of control. For example, if its ones desire to have children its important to have a medical team that will understand this desire and provide good treatment even if they dont agree with your decision, rather than reprimand you by giving you poor care
4] People who are happy dont claim the victim role, in fact, they tend to ask, Why not me? rather than Why me? To fashion this attitude may take effort if it doesnt come naturally. But a lot of these people get involved in different organizations that serve people. And when one is around others who live with illness, cancer, or who have left abusive homes, they quickly understand that this world is not a perfect place. When things are going pretty well in their lives, they recognize it as a blessing, not a right.
5] They understand who they are and so arent overly sensitive, taking others comments too personally. If one has a strong faith this can make everything much simpler because one understands her value and worth as a person doesnt count on what she can accomplish with her physical strength. She learns what she is accountable for (like an attitude) and not (like an infection that keeps returning). This can help keep away unnecessary guilt for things out of her power.
6] They communicate competently. Being able to talk with others, explain your feelings, learning to listen effectively, and watching your words carefully, can help you avoid a lot of troubles. Misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and arguments can affect your whole life and your bodys capacity to cope with an illness. One must learn to manage bitterness and focus on healthy relationships. Happy people with illness are good at understanding when to talk about their illness and how much to share about their personal lives.
7] They genuinely care about other people. No one wants to get a chronic illness to receive that education in life but people who are happy allow their experiences to be a gift of knowledge. They can share struggles and successes with others. They are able to use their experiences as a way to help a friend or become a mentor. To truly find happiness, we must look outside of ourselves and reach out to other people.
http://copdnewsoftheday.com/?p=281
This was posted on COPD News Of The Day a while ago, some of you may have seen it. The message is one I strive to live by daily and I find it helps.
Thought this might help some of us here too.
Love to all,
Holly
As I sit here working on this article my 4-year-old son hangs out with me with a little cold and fever. I keep telling him he needs some medicine but all he has said since he got out of bed is Im better now. Im all better. How much does our attitude effect how well we deal with our illness and our level of happiness?
Everyone handles the troubles in their lives in assortment of ways. While some people put on a happy face and intentionally decide they will use their illness as an opportunity, others will drive home from the physicians office anxious about how much longer they will be able to drive because of the seriousness of the pain. Theyll lie down on the couch and not leave the house for years. Why do some people thrive even though they have a chronic illness while others simply go into survival mode, even using the illness as an excuse for everything that goes wrong in their life?
So what do happy chronically ill people have in common?
Here are a few things Ive discovered:
1] They maintain hope. Weve found through research that people who have hope actually recover from surgery faster than those who have less hope. Hope is fundamental and a basic step in finding contentment despite our situation. The 2006 theme of National Invisible Chronic Illness Awareness Week was My illness is invisible but my hope shines through. This is an attitude we should all have.
2] They carry on and keep going no matter what with a persevering attitude. Living with constant chronic pain is very tiring! Emotionally, physically, and spiritually, chronic pain can quickly deplete our strength and spirit. Our good health is one of the main things our society counts on to help us reach our dreams, even referring to the saying, At least you have your health! But when you live with unending chronic pain and still are able to find happiness, part of the reason is becausethough you adapt our dreamsyou still have them. At times, these new purposes can be more exhausting than the original ones, but passion can produce a lot of adrenaline.
3] They are good advocates of their own health. Paul J. Donoghue and Mary E. Siegel, authors of Sick and Tired of Feeling Sick and Tired, write Getting this help in a consistently satisfying manner is as essential as it is challenging. You will need perseverance, courage and skill. You will need to understand your needs and be committed to getting them (p. 160). People who take part in the decision making process on the topic of their care and treatment, and who actively hunt for out doctors who will partner with them, are more happy than those who feel out of control. For example, if its ones desire to have children its important to have a medical team that will understand this desire and provide good treatment even if they dont agree with your decision, rather than reprimand you by giving you poor care
4] People who are happy dont claim the victim role, in fact, they tend to ask, Why not me? rather than Why me? To fashion this attitude may take effort if it doesnt come naturally. But a lot of these people get involved in different organizations that serve people. And when one is around others who live with illness, cancer, or who have left abusive homes, they quickly understand that this world is not a perfect place. When things are going pretty well in their lives, they recognize it as a blessing, not a right.
5] They understand who they are and so arent overly sensitive, taking others comments too personally. If one has a strong faith this can make everything much simpler because one understands her value and worth as a person doesnt count on what she can accomplish with her physical strength. She learns what she is accountable for (like an attitude) and not (like an infection that keeps returning). This can help keep away unnecessary guilt for things out of her power.
6] They communicate competently. Being able to talk with others, explain your feelings, learning to listen effectively, and watching your words carefully, can help you avoid a lot of troubles. Misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and arguments can affect your whole life and your bodys capacity to cope with an illness. One must learn to manage bitterness and focus on healthy relationships. Happy people with illness are good at understanding when to talk about their illness and how much to share about their personal lives.
7] They genuinely care about other people. No one wants to get a chronic illness to receive that education in life but people who are happy allow their experiences to be a gift of knowledge. They can share struggles and successes with others. They are able to use their experiences as a way to help a friend or become a mentor. To truly find happiness, we must look outside of ourselves and reach out to other people.
http://copdnewsoftheday.com/?p=281
This was posted on COPD News Of The Day a while ago, some of you may have seen it. The message is one I strive to live by daily and I find it helps.
Thought this might help some of us here too.
Love to all,
Holly
I can add other reasons to add, since I fall in the lack of coping/ poor me group.
1) Negative, negative, negative. Brought up by hypercritical negative thinkers and talkers. Overcoming negativity is hard. They say you have to replace each negative thought with 10 positive thoughts.
2) Lack of spirituality. Confusion about religion. Spiritually bankrupt.
3) Isolation. No family or friends to talk to or interact with.
4) Other illnesses that compound the problem.
5) Mental health issues; such as depression and agoraphobia.
6) Being selfless or self-sacrificing. We have to take care of ourselves first, or we can not help others. This is not selfish; someone recently told me.
On the POSITIVE side: the unconditional love of a beloved pet.
One more thing or three.. we are survivors and are all successful at making the best out of what we have and can do.
Many of the things we achieve and tolerate with our illness is something to feel proud of.
Bless all for doing just what they can each and every day.
The choice is ours.. live in the past and bemoan losses or choose to deal with today...
can't change yesterday and only I am responsible for today....