Conduct Disorder Support Group

Conduct Disorder is a pattern of repetitive behavior where the rights of others or the social norms are violated. Possible symptoms are over aggressive behavior, bullying, physical aggression, cruel behavior toward people and pets, destructive behavior, lying, truancy, vandalism and stealing. After the age of 18, a conduct disorder may develop into antisocial personality...

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Is it time for a permenant Treament Facility?

CinnamonMocha
CinnamonMocha
I feel as though I lack the motivation I once had for yet another behavior plan. I shrink and have a difficult time sticking to my guns so to speak as I see my son getting upset or as I see him giving me the look he gets in his eyes as he begins to escalate before property is damaged or he begins to threaten my personal safety. It becomes increasingly difficult to disengage as my self esteem take yet another beating from my son's verbally assault-iv words. How do I then turn around and nearly immediately become the caring supportive informative mother my son and everyone expects me to be. I can't just flip that switch anymore. It is taking me some time I am in pain. I sink and am stunned and space out as I hear my son may need further services and a psycho-sexual evaluation. I fear buying anything nice for the simple fact that it may be destroyed. Countless holes in walls, chairs destroyed, door jams ruined, phone broken, dent in car, I mean any of you with a son who has odd or cd I'm sure know have a list of damages. When do you know it's time for residential treatment? I don't mean the occasional 10 day medication tune-up so to speak. I mean the permanent kind.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm right there with you.That seems like all I can say, you are not alone in this thought. It seems so unreal the thought of not feeling safe in my own home because of my child. Everyone in my house is suffering. We have been thinking of some kind of permanent thing also. But when is the right time and is it right is so hard to answer to. We have tons of emotions about this at all times we find that every time we talk it always ends up with us talking about him and his issues. It has made my 9 yr old sick. He is having full anxiety attacks. How much is too much on the rest of us in the home.
deleted_user
deleted_user
For me it was time, when I just cant' be his mom anymore, there's none of me left, we are looking now
deleted_user
deleted_user
Have you tried any other treatment approaches? Such as switching from a behavioral plan to a love-based approach? We are having success with our homeopath and off all psych meds. In fact, she said we don't have to come back. Still struggling but making it
lauranicotrapatton
lauranicotrapatton
I am so sad to read this yet relieved because we are not alone. I am beside myself with my soon to be 13 year old. He is destroying our home and and our family and our already stressed marriage. We try behavior plans, rewards, restriction of duties, ignoring him reward charts everything. it is so tough to be consistent and it wears on you.
Was considering a summer camp geared to this issue but fear the level of behavioral problems there will be so much worse, fear what he will be exposed to. Also his therapist suggested if we cant get it under control he has been violent to us to deploy a PIN program through the state (NYS) that sounds so severe and frightening. Any advice appreciated.
precious1976mlc
precious1976mlc
I truly hear you there. I have a four year old that exhibits the same behavior. If it helps I am 39 years old and I went through I time in my life that I did the same thing you mentioned with your son. I use to hit and punch things break things in my room and break or ruin other people's belongings. I am not sure when I grew out of this behavior but, I think that happened around the time I was 18 and buying my own things. I soon realized if I ruined things I had to buy the stuff out of my pocket. If it helps you could try to set an allowance for him where he has to pay you back for things he breaks. Make sure you are crystal clear about your expectations. Show him how much he would of gotten than start taking money back for repayment of the things damaged. Give everything a price value and let him have some of the money only to set an example of how to manage money and being responsible in the long run. It may make things easier on you. It is a suggestion. I hope you find this helpful.
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